My aunt and mother were talking yesterday and my aunt has said that she is moving back to Cleveland. My parents, me and grandmother all live in the Cleveland area. We are hoping that it really happens because we do need another set of eyes with my grandmother. My aunt is starting to make plans to be up here by June but needs time to get her affairs in order (selling the house and stuff like that). The problem is becoming my cousins. They are making a stink about her moving. They are saying that our grandmother doesn't need another pair of eyes, she has us, what about holidays, we need a babysitter. The thing is that all of them have moved away, have good paying jobs. My cousins couldn't be bothered to come to Cleveland to see their grandmother in at least 20 years. Spring break? I am going skiing instead of seeing my grandmother and other family. My parents and I can't afford to see them in Texas a lot but make an effort to talk to them over the phone. I don't understand why they are being bratty about this. We do need help with my grandmother. I just hope that my cousins don't talk my aunt out of this. My aunt did ask about a job at the company that I work at and I said there seem to be openings everywhere.
After 15 years, they decided to take a 4 day vacation....my uncle and his kids were to take care of grandma.
When they returned, they found grandma on the floor of her bedroom...broken shoulder and sever dehydration. No one came to help her the whole time!
My uncle and his kids (cousins) only got involved when Mom said they were moving out (even though it was their house), and they could then take care of grandma from then on. The family powwow was full of anger and nasty advice for my parents...but..not one of them offered to actually show up and help.
When the day came...my uncle moved grandma into a nursing home. Not one of those worthless people ever helped her or visited her.
My advice....ignore the cousins. Tell them off it is helps. Talk to your aunt and make sure she knows how much her help means to you all and to grandma.