My dad has dementia, but when I’ve been to see him he’s happy. I got married to a Muslim and my brother can’t handle that. All I want is to spend time with my dad. I have pics and videos of how happy he is with me. Please advise me on what I can do.
Thank you
Just show up. I've never known a facility to bar someone from visiting unless there is a police/court order in place restricting access.
As far as the law and everyone involved in it are concerned, what matters is what your father wants and what is good for him. So your wanting to spend time with him isn't the point - it's about *his* right to see you, and to spend time with you.
Just say, for example, hypothetically, that a person with dementia has better long-term memory; and that visits from a family member stir up upsetting memories that leave him distressed after the visit is over. That kind of situation (I'm not saying this is what happens with your father, mind) could be a valid reason to restrict or ban visits from that particular family member.
Where (I mean in what state or country - AgingCare has forum members all over the world) are you and your father living? I'm asking because there are huge differences in how services for older people are managed, but there almost always is some kind of system for checking that their rights are being protected, and maybe we could help you find out what your next steps might be.