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IF he's fully capable otherwise, wears briefs and is willing to mask up, there are many places you can take him. Even with a mask, probably it would be best to avoid very crowded areas, but shopping or other indoor activities could be done, esp if you time it right when it isn't as busy.
If he won't wear a mask, choices are more limited. Depending on where you live, outdoor activities should be fine, so long as it isn't crowded. A nice drive in the "country" is another option. Grab some takeout burgers and fries (assuming no food restrictions!) and eat in the car. Ice cream (again, depending on the weather), coffee and doughnuts, to eat and drink while you tool around in the car. Nature walks. Perhaps a zoo, if you have one and it isn't too busy.
Get him outside and away from others: walk around the block, in a park, to the beach, a nature preserve... anywhere that he won't be jampacked next to other people so he can enjoy sunshine (and maybe a little mask-free time too).
What does (or did) enjoy doing? And depending on where you live, I agree with some time outdoors, listening to music, listening to a podcast. If he's tech savvy, he can play online games with people worldwide. My own LO became more depressed, took to the doctor and he prescribed an antidepressant. It helped. Wish you well~
When my mother was disabled from a stroke, I used to take her out for a ‘walking pace drive’. We picked a nice day, drove to a minimum-traffic road in our hills, then put all the car windows down and drove very very slowly close to the edge of the road, with stops to look better at anything interesting. She sometimes even picked leaves off the bushes! There were some city roads we did too, criticising people’s front gardens. If your Dad has mobility restrictions (not Covid related) this sort of thing might help.
Go for a ride, get a lunch at a drive through and sit at a park to eat. Enjoy walking outside. My mom and her neighbors meet outside at a regular time socially distanced and with masks to just visit. Often they bring a little cocktail and they all look forward to this. Its hard on everyone but especially the elderly. Fresh air and sunshine is always good for the soul!
I've found nature oriented sites the most soothing. If there are any parks near you, they're more likely empty now, and assuming they're safe, would be good, private places to go, and just sit and watch the birds, the busy squirrels gathering up winter dinners, the leaves falling softly with winds, and other activity of park areas.
Walking also can tire him out and he won't be quite so restless.
If he wants to go out, he should be allowed to go out (unless he’s in LTC). We seem have to decided what our elders want. We’ve isolated them and now we are finding out that isolation is killing them off fast! Like Alva said, there are safe places to go. Wear your masks. Find outdoor activities. Go for a walk through a local garden or park. If you live on the coast, pick up dinner & go park at the beach and eat dinner while you watch the sunset. A lot of cities have set up drive in movies, maybe there is one nearby showing a movie he would like to see? My local fairgrounds has set one up and they are showing Halloween movies all month.
I agree. Heck. Take him SHOPPING. My partner and I mask up and do our shopping. Careful safety measures are all we need and we can function in the world. If Dad isn't capable of careful measures go with him. And if he is stubborn and won't let you, then he is on his own and takes his own risks. Just mask up when you see him coming!! Hee. We are going to be living with Covid-19 for a long long time. And we are going to have to learn HOW to live with it. Sadly.
Does he live with you? Does he have dementia, and is unable to understand about Covid-19? If he lives alone, and is competent and aware, then he, like everyone else, can make his own choice. There are safe places to take your Dad outdoors, with mask, to give him some respite from home, otherwise, some rides to places, and etc. What have you tried?
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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IF he's fully capable otherwise, wears briefs and is willing to mask up, there are many places you can take him. Even with a mask, probably it would be best to avoid very crowded areas, but shopping or other indoor activities could be done, esp if you time it right when it isn't as busy.
If he won't wear a mask, choices are more limited. Depending on where you live, outdoor activities should be fine, so long as it isn't crowded. A nice drive in the "country" is another option. Grab some takeout burgers and fries (assuming no food restrictions!) and eat in the car. Ice cream (again, depending on the weather), coffee and doughnuts, to eat and drink while you tool around in the car. Nature walks. Perhaps a zoo, if you have one and it isn't too busy.
Go for a drive.
Take a stroll in a park.
Sit on a park bench.
Go eat at an outdoor restaurant.
Look around to see what is open. Wear a mask. This is hard. Be safe but allow him to feel some connection to the outside world.
Walking also can tire him out and he won't be quite so restless.
If he lives alone, and is competent and aware, then he, like everyone else, can make his own choice.
There are safe places to take your Dad outdoors, with mask, to give him some respite from home, otherwise, some rides to places, and etc.
What have you tried?