My dad is still on the deed. My step mom has said her two daughters will get everything, she created a will after my father was placed in a nursing home, naming them as the recipiants of everything. Leaving me and my three sisters nothing. She spent what was supposed to take care of my dad on paying off the house and basically doing a spend down so she could claim Mediciad for him.
My sister has Durable Power of Atty for my Dad if something happens to my step mom. I'm concerned because she has asked for me to be taken off the checking account, and put her daughter on the account....I said no, I'll write checks for my Dads' nursing home if needed. I just don't trust her and would like to know what options we have. My Dad has no will.....
Step-mom is going to leave what remains of their estate to whom ever she chooses, and unfortunately there nothing you can do about that now. I would just be concerned about your Dad's quality of life for now, and let the chips fall where they may. His Money shouldn't even be of concern at this point, after all, its Their money really, isn't it. Sounds like you have an acrimonious relationship with your Step-Mom, I'd be working on that, and taking care of him while he's still alive, for your Dad's sake, maybe then, your Step-Mom will see how the devision of their estate in the end might be more fairly devided, if you are all getting along. It seems like there's something else going here, that you aren't sharing. Money is the root off all evil, isn't it?
I'll leave it at that, I do not owe you a full story of all the details that led us to where we are today!
You need to contact an Elder Law Attorney to figure out the legalities of all this and what rights you have and what you should do.
When Dad dies the state will step in. Debts will have to be paid and then then the state gives the wife a % and HIS children a %. Don't think steps count. Maybe wrong. Your Smom does not know what she is talking about. Start getting things together. Proof that Dad could not do a will because he couldn't make those decisions. Call ur Probate office and ask what happens when there is no will.