My father has been hospitalized for about 10 days due to falling and they found a brain bleed, unfortunately my father is without a home right now, he was living with me but after he was sent to the hospital my landlords will not allow him back to my residence (they live below me). Now this social worker who is so rude beyond comprehension is telling me he's ready to be discharged and to come get him. First I know for a fact if I put him up somewhere he cannot live on his own and I told this social worker so he told me if I dont get him he will send him to a homeless shelter and call the police on me for abandonment. I'm not trying to abandon him I just dont know what to do or where to turn right now. I'm about to have a nervous breakdown myself.
This could be a blessing in disguise, really. IF he can’t live alone you can have him sent directly from the hospital to the nursing home where he belongs.
If your father has no safe home to return to -it is THEIR JOB to assist you in finding an alternate option.
Just curious as to why the landlords will not let him come back? Can they really do that? Guess it depends on if you'd be breaking any terms of your lease.
Take some deep breaths. Try to calm down. It's not easy, but you will figure this out and get it resolved.
Keep saying "No", document your conversations, hold your ground as he will not be safe if he is returned to his former residence, Unsafe Discharge!
Homeless Shelter is a new con, ignore, keep your boundaries in place.
They are desperate to get him out. They cannot do an unsafe discharge and will lose their license it they do. So that it the exact words to use "My father needs placement; he can't live with me and I am not his POA or guardian; if you do an UNSAFE DISCHARGE I will report you for it and your facility will lose its license.
I am HOPING that your father qualifies for placement, because if there is no diagnosis of dementia or inability to care for himself then his next home MAY be discharge to a shelter. I am so sorry. Be sure he is being diagnosed for dementia. The hospital may get him rehab placement, but that will be temporary.
If you cannot take care of your father and he NEEDS 24/7 care be certain not to take on POA or guardianship. That will make you responsible. Tell the Social Worker he needs guardianship by the state. Tell them he cannot live with you as he was couch-surfing and the landlord will not let him back in.
As to rude? Come up with a few very choice swear word options so he will understand what rude is. He cannot deposit your father on your doorstep or they WILL most certainly lose their license.
Tell them you know all about JCAHO (Joint Commission on Accreditation) and how to report them (whether you do or not) and then look up JCAHO phone number and how to report this hospital should you need to.