He has no insurance. He has no way of paying for a nursing home or even to see a doctor. My brother and I cannot care for him as we are financially unable. What do we do? He’s only 58. Dementia is likely but has not been diagnosed. He has a history of heavy drinking.
The worst that can happen is the NH says sorry no we can't give you confidential information and you're no further forward. It's not like if the NH spots you in the distance you'll be hunted down and forced to assume responsibility for your father's care.