He says its not incontinence and he gets to the bathroom just fine, but when he gets there, he just misses. I have tried talking to him about it, but he just says "I'll work on it" and nothing changes. He lives with me, but I can't always be there to change him. We have talked about him sitting down instead of standing and he says that should solve it, but then we he goes to the bathroom (even if we just got done talking about it) he still does it. I don't know what to do.
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For guys, Tena male guards are the best. They fit more like an sports guard. CVS carries them and you can get on-line. Not the solution to the problem but a way to lessen your clean-up issues.
Also agree with Jaye - go with him to urologist so that you hear what he is told.
I also agree with Igloo. This can be a very humiliating thing for a senior to deal with so forcing solutions like Depends should be the last resort. BTW--the pee bottle will work even better if you let him think it was HIS idea and approach it with some humor. ;-))
If he is missing, the only thing I can suggest is to keep a pair of rubber gloves handy and a bottle of Antibacterial Lysol bathroom cleaner available at all times. If he sees you constantly cleaning up the area, he will probably work on hitting the target.
I don't think he is going to change his wardrobe at this point in the game, and if he is getting to the bathroom on his own, he would probably become angry or offended that someone would suggest it. All I can say is be thankful the mess isn't a trail starting in the bedroom, through the hall and into the bathroom. He at least keeps it confined to the area around the toilet.