My father is an alcoholic and has been spending his money like crazy. He has racked up about 40,000 dollars in credit card debt that he won't pay. He also has not planned for his own funeral. My mother has had a stroke and desperately needs to go to a nursing home. I work and live in another state. My daughter is a PhD candidate and does not have time, and my father is drunk and hard of hearing and can't even take care of the cat much less my mother. What can I do to get him to stop spending money so that she can go to a nursing home? He has also been beating her and has been turned into the Adult Protective Services. They did nothing and the hospital knowing that he had been turned in to APS released her into his care. She was home 3 hours before she was back in the emergency room.
I also would write to the hospital and express my opinions on the discharge of a seriously disabled woman into the care of someone investigated by APS. Maybe if they know someone is watching, their legal department will weigh in on the quality of her next "safe discharge".
Why would you expect anyone else to care more for your mom than you do?
I know that will offend some but I don't care. When anyone is to busy to protect a vulnerable human being, well I can't say what I would like to.
Call the cops on him. Complain to APS. Do what JoAnn29 states.
Your mom is helpless and has no voice. You have to be her voice.
I don't get along with my mother and most the time I don't even like her. But as God is my witness, I would go after anyone that would hurt her. I would have to repent for 3 days to a week. Lord help me!
Can you call the police? How do you find out she has been beaten, is in the ER?
Whoever is calling you should call the police.