Medicaid 5 year look back. My grandfather bought me a home in September 2011 (both of our names on title) and in April 2013 shortly after I got married his name was taken off & my name remained. I made payments on the house for awhile but with cash; it got to a point where he wouldn't take my money anymore and told me that's my house and to take care of my family. Here recently we have been in the process of selling my home (the house he bought in 2011) and moving to a new city but now my grandfather is going to have to be placed in a nursing home. He has enough money to pay for nursing home for 2 years but after that point he will be out of money. Now I'm scared not only is my grandfather not doing well but we might be punished with his gifts (house and cars) and with both of ours names still on the vehicles with the 5 year look back and then my family will be in a horrible spot.
If he is a WWII or Korea Vet ,(or Viet Nam), he can get $1, 788 toward private pay nursing or Assisted living, I can answer some questions off line.
It sounds like your gf also bought you a car you are afraid of losing. It also sounds like your family is dependent upon your grandfather's generosity in order to survive. So you are worried about his well being as well as your own. You should definitely shop around for a good nursing home in both cities. Take tours if facilities and be discriminating. Your grandfather deserves that. To make the most if his assets, I would lean toward placing him in the lower cost of living state. For example, in NY where I live, the cost is $405 a day. In other states I understand the cost is 2-something.
As others have said, he needs elder law & with the convoluted property issues, he & you should try to get one who is NAELA. I would pull all the legal on him & the properties (anything filed at the courthouse, current tax assessor items, his awards letters, etc) and see somebody soon. You may find that the reality is that his money will not be able to stretch more than a year or two. The costs of care are horrendous and can easily spiral to over 100K a year. You want to make sure whatever you do will be within however Medicaid is done in your state & that guidance comes with good legal..