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Ah, Lee, what a difficult time this must be for you! Since you have young children I assume this would be early onset dementia. Any time is a bad time for getting dementia, but getting it so young seems especially unfair!
I wonder if your children would benefit from some counseling. Are they old enough to understand the concept of a problem in Dad's brain that prevents him from showing his love in usual ways?
Instead of focusing on the TBI (which may or may not be the cause of his dementia), see if it helps to focus on early onset dementia. For example, connect with organizations like ALZ.org regarding that and see if you can discover good counseling resources for your children and a support group for you.
Getting him to a doctor would be an excellent step in his care. For one thing, if any of his symptoms are related to treatable conditions (such as vitamin deficiencies or depression), he could get treatment! That wouldn't cure dementia, but it would relieve some of his symptoms.
Meanwhile, move ahead as if you are dealing with a spouse who has dementia. Aim for improvement in the quality of his life. Accept that you may not have a long future together, and don't put off things that would give you both pleasure now.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It is a sad disease impacting entire families.
Thanks suec1957. Have done a lot of research & he shows nearly all signs listed. His family no help & he has isolated himself from most friends. Issues with kids is verbal aggression, with kids feeling like he hates them. Aswell as him not wanting to interact with them. Have reached out for advice from brain injury rehab but because he is not in the acute phase have had no luck.
It's possible, after a traumatic brain injury at any time, the person may develop dementia. Have you done any research on dementia? Does he have at least half the symptoms that they list? Alz.org is a great site, as is this board. Do some research. Maybe he just might be having "older age brain" like misplacing keys or forgetting appointments. Also Youtube is a good reference for videos about dementias.
If he won't listen to you, maybe he'll listen to his parents (if living and clear headed), siblings or a close friend or neighbor. It's very common for the sufferer to deny there is any problem. He's going to deny anything you bring up.
Call his doctor's office and ask them to call your home to remind him of his "yearly physical". Tell them what you suspect. Best if you can talk directly to the doctor. Sometimes they will listen to "authority figures".
What type of impact is he having on the kids? Can you explain?
I'm sure the posters on this board will have many other good suggestions. Good luck.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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I wonder if your children would benefit from some counseling. Are they old enough to understand the concept of a problem in Dad's brain that prevents him from showing his love in usual ways?
Instead of focusing on the TBI (which may or may not be the cause of his dementia), see if it helps to focus on early onset dementia. For example, connect with organizations like ALZ.org regarding that and see if you can discover good counseling resources for your children and a support group for you.
Getting him to a doctor would be an excellent step in his care. For one thing, if any of his symptoms are related to treatable conditions (such as vitamin deficiencies or depression), he could get treatment! That wouldn't cure dementia, but it would relieve some of his symptoms.
Meanwhile, move ahead as if you are dealing with a spouse who has dementia. Aim for improvement in the quality of his life. Accept that you may not have a long future together, and don't put off things that would give you both pleasure now.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It is a sad disease impacting entire families.
What is his employment situation, BTW?
Issues with kids is verbal aggression, with kids feeling like he hates them. Aswell as him not wanting to interact with them.
Have reached out for advice from brain injury rehab but because he is not in the acute phase have had no luck.
If he won't listen to you, maybe he'll listen to his parents (if living and clear headed), siblings or a close friend or neighbor. It's very common for the sufferer to deny there is any problem. He's going to deny anything you bring up.
Call his doctor's office and ask them to call your home to remind him of his "yearly physical". Tell them what you suspect. Best if you can talk directly to the doctor. Sometimes they will listen to "authority figures".
What type of impact is he having on the kids? Can you explain?
I'm sure the posters on this board will have many other good suggestions. Good luck.