He has recently become incontinent and won't cooperate when I take off his regular daytime underwear to put the disposable one on for nighttime. He won't lift up his feet for the pullup type and he won't stand still for the tape on ones. The tape on ones end up ripped off in the night in a heap on the floor and pee runs off the bed to the floor. The pull up ones involve a physical struggle. He is pretty strong, but he is dizzy or afraid, not sure how he can fight so. Any ideas would be much appreciated!
Does he co-operate to put his normal daytime underwear on? Lift feet etc?
Is he sitting down to do this & just stand at the end?
Would disguising pull-ups inside a pair of normal underwear work? Then place pajama bottoms over the top?
Another alternative is to contact his doctor and ask if meds to calm his anxiety may help him to relax.
If that doesn't work it might be time for him to start using a condom catheter, or some other type of catheter. There are also many medications that help with incontinence, along with Botox that can be put in his bladder to help as well. You can talk to his urologist about the different options.
It's hard. I know. I went through this with my husband. He ended up having to get a supra pubic catheter(a permanent one).
And of course if it just gets to be too much, you will have no choice but to place him in the appropriate facility. Best wishes.
I will speak to the doc as soon as I have the adult day care starting back up. I can hardly wait.
I don't want him to feel like he is being told what to do, BUT, I want him to be dry when he wakes up. Any suggestions?????