A fter 5 years of me doing 24 hour care went to his VA Doctor and ask for help big mistake. So it took 6 months but got a company through them and within 4 months my husband has kicked me out took away my car and gave it to is hired caregiver has given her money every month and paid her rent this month my husband is a Veteran and we live on a fixed income this woman is totally doing the sweetheart scam and I can't do a thing about it I've reported it to her company the VA and because I'm just his wife I have no say who cares for him what.can I do please help
So the caregiver is doing the 24/7 care now?
I don't know what you can do. The VA and the healthcare company aren't going to get in the middle of this. Do you have a place to live? How long have you been married? Your husband just kicked you out and moved the caregiver in? I think there must be more to this story.
I am very sorry about the emotional upheaval this all entails, and the total lack of gratitude for your own caregiving. Seeing a lawyer won't address all that, but it is also important to not be victimized here.
Is your husband in his "right mind" at this time? Or has he started having dementia related to his MS?
She has had many caregivers with the company
Help at Home. The workers are not allowed
To accept money or gifts, you should contact
The company BBB and report the company.
2. See if you can freeze his assests so he doesn't gift it all away to this woman.
Need to draw a line in the sand here.
Sadly it sounds like the marriage has been dead for a while but you hung on in there doing the right thing for your husband.
Does piss me off when a new 'young' thing ricks up without the encumerance of the barnacles acquired over time in a tough caregiver role (where you work 24/7, and can't close the door on it!)
Plus some people behave better for strangers than for their immediate family, so this woman hasn't seen the real side of your husband yet.
Take this as a gift and chance for your own happiness my love. But absolutely refuse to give anything back that was yours (ie your car!)
And name the carer association on here so folk know they allow their carers to behave in this way. They absolutely have a responsibility in this.
They are running a carer service not a dati g agency. Should vet their carers better.
Good luck! And find the silver lining... I think it is shining very brightly here!! FREEDOM!!!
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