Eye doctor told her over 2 years ago to get them done. Her dementia got worse and so has her depression. My mom stays in her dark bedroom most of the day and has tv on but can’t see what’s on..I ask her ,what are you watching ,mom can’t tell me and says it doesn’t matter ,she just wants to die. When I tell her, let’s see the eye doctor, she refuses , .. she won’t leave the house for anything! It’s hard enough every 6 months to get her to see her doctor.
Her depression could come from not being able to see. The procedure is fairly simple. I've been told the drops are the worst of it. Maybe Mom could be "put out" for the procedure.
She also developed cataracts after the macular degeneration had robbed her of her ability to do much, but she had the surgery anyway. She came out of that surgery like a new person because she said she could see colors again! She hadn't realized that the cataracts had dulled everything to a grayish tone.
So, while she couldn't make out things any better than she could before the surgery, my mother's mood was lifted enormously because what she could see was brighter and more colorful.
Do try to help your mom get the surgery.
How do you get her to the doctor, by the way?
In your moms case, call her primary doctor and let him/her know the symptoms and that you think she needs an appointment and blood lab work. Then call ophthalmologist and get her in to an appointment. She’s probably suffering with a cascade of symptoms making her life feel impossible.