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She sleeps a lot and sometimes makes it difficult for me to go out. My sister and I share her care every 4 months. I live in Florida and she's in Ohio. My brother wants no part in her care. Is this fair for all of us? I think so!
That is great that you and your sister have been able to share the work. Unfortunately at some point, the travel to and from might become too much but I guess you'll have to cross that bridge when you come to it.
Your brother, if he doesn't want to help, well, that's just the way it is. Can't make him and he'd probably be very bad at it if he felt forced.
I agree that you should try to find a caregiver for you to be able to get out from time to time. I'd shoot for maybe once a week for a few hours. Even though you get 4 months off, your 4 months on can be pretty intense and you need a break sometimes.
Who isn't feeling like it's fair since you indicate you do but are asking the question? If you are in FL and your sister in OH where does your mom live and your brother? Sounds like while mom is able to do things for herself still it isn't safe or appropriate for her to be left alone even for an hour or so at a time, is that right?
Chorita, too bad your brother doesn't help out, like take care of Mom's financials, writing checks for her bills from her checking account, etc. Or if he doesn't want to do that, maybe send a few dollars every now and then. Some siblings just don't know what to do, you and your sister need to ask him if he can do this or that.
As for hands-on, not everyone is cut out to do that type of caregiving, I know I wasn't. Just doing the logistical stuff was exhausting enough :P
Would it be possible for your Mom to budget for a caregiver to come in for a couple hours each day or every other day, thus give you a break? My Dad was paying $30/hour but that price per hour varies from area to area. It was well worth the cost.
From your profile: "I am caring for my mother Alejandrina, who is 90 years old, living in my home with age-related decline, alzheimer's / dementia, anxiety, depression, sleep disorder, and vision problems."
What does it mean that your sister and you share her care?
Does your mother have any assets? What's going to happen if her care becomes too much for you (and your sister) to handle? Who will pay for caregivers to come in? Can she become Medicaid-eligible?
Is your health (mental and physical) health suffering because you are your mother's caregiver?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Your brother, if he doesn't want to help, well, that's just the way it is. Can't make him and he'd probably be very bad at it if he felt forced.
I agree that you should try to find a caregiver for you to be able to get out from time to time. I'd shoot for maybe once a week for a few hours. Even though you get 4 months off, your 4 months on can be pretty intense and you need a break sometimes.
As for hands-on, not everyone is cut out to do that type of caregiving, I know I wasn't. Just doing the logistical stuff was exhausting enough :P
Would it be possible for your Mom to budget for a caregiver to come in for a couple hours each day or every other day, thus give you a break? My Dad was paying $30/hour but that price per hour varies from area to area. It was well worth the cost.
What does it mean that your sister and you share her care?
Does your mother have any assets? What's going to happen if her care becomes too much for you (and your sister) to handle? Who will pay for caregivers to come in? Can she become Medicaid-eligible?
Is your health (mental and physical) health suffering because you are your mother's caregiver?