Should we sit down and talk to her about ways for her to be able to know what's in the refrigerator, and talk to her about getting a hearing aid? At what point do we need to have the conversation about nursing home care and how do you begin such a conversation?
How to start the conversation. I’ll venture this one and hopefully others will offer suggestions to help you get started.
“Mom, I have called the Area Agency on Aging. They will be here this afternoon and will do an evaluation on what you need in order to be able to manage better. I know that you are struggling with your knees and your vision is worse. Hubs and I aren’t getting any younger so we need to learn what your options are while we are able to get you situated. Perhaps there is some help for you. “
Write down which ever suggestions you take or come up with and practice them when you are driving so that you aren't stumped if and when she pushes back.
You can do this. Time to get started.
You said Hubby is disabled and in a lot of pain but he still stirs himself to take Mom to the doctor. God bless him. Mine wouldn’t have. Because he’s obviously such a good guy it’s time to make him your #1 priority instead of Mom. Sounds like she had her chance and she blew it. That’s not to say you should approach her going to a facility as punishment. How do you broach the subject? Simple, straightforward honesty. “Mom, I need to take care of John now. He’s been awfully good to me and I need to take care of him. He is my #1. We’re going to help you find a place that you like that will take good care of you, too.” Period. No arguing. You’re a grown woman and able to make your own decisions. No more failure to launch.
fit anyways. There are activities and others to socialize with. I would act now
as many of the better ones can have wait lists. Good luck!!!