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I don't understand why I have to write to VA for this, to another state for that form... You would think the VA would have all this info on their veterans, put in a name and SSN and there's all the info. It takes months to get the info, to get it back, and then months to file. She needs home care as she won't go to a home. Neither of them planned for their future. I feel as though the VA makes this benefit so hard to get that you just give up. That's what I did. I gave up.

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I would wonder in those who have been successful and getting A&A for a LO was it easier getting for the Vet over getting it for the surviving spouse?
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get legal help
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The federal government is not easy to deal with - lots of paperwork, old computer systems, not enough workers (especially now).... So sorry your parents did not put things together so VA had all the paperwork/info needed for the situations you face today. Keep at it.
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We filed and were successful getting 20% service connected disability for my husband by working with a benefits counselor in a local County Veterans Affairs Office. This is all we had to do…
1. Made a phone call and was told what documents would be needed.
2. Brought the documents to an in-person appointment.
3. At the appointment, we answered questions while counselor completed the application online for us. She even pulled info from his online records when needed.
4. We went for the medical appointment to verify issues.
5. He was approved, received the back-pay from date of application and began getting his monthly benefits.
6. There was never a fee for services and I think it only took 6 months.

Several years ago we applied by ourselves for Aid and Attendance and it took months to complete the forms and then after waiting months longer he was denied. I now know more about what it will take to qualify and I plan to go back to the benefits counselor again for help and expect it will take a lot less time to go through the application process. We now have a trust for our retirement funds, etc. In six more months it will be beyond the 3 yr. look back period and we can reapply with it not counting against us and in 2 1/2 years it won’t count against us for Medicaid if there is a need. Hopefully with Aid and Attendance and what we have saved we can have more choices and delay Medicaid for a long time.

When my husband applied for SS disability, we went to the SS office…. a rep completed his application for us and just like working with the County Veterans Affairs Office, he was approved the first time around, all with no attorney fees.

Never try to work through a government application alone or use a paid service until you have exhausted the free services of the agency involved.

Never deny yourself of benefits you are entitled simply by not applying. Find your local County Veterans Affairs Office and hopefully you will find a good benefits counselor like we did to file the application for you.
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ckrestaurant1 Apr 2022
I filed this through the mail ironically....and got approved for my 95 yr old Dad Vet in 3 months!!I went to the VA as well ...however I did not get the correct level which should have been double the money received which was
900 dollars....as Dad was blind and I was happy and just plain unaware that this existed at all....calling on behalf of brother caretaker of Dad who fell 5 yrs earlier and was low income and taken care of by my brother for many yrs...of yes you need the Discharge papers for this....or you will wait longer to locate this paperwork through the VA....remember WW2 was eighty years ago!
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mhousto: Hang in there. Try contacting them again and don't give up this time as your mother needs the information. Retain an elder law attorney.
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Get an attorney who specializes in this. It’s worth it. And when u do get all the necessary forms, make at least 5 copies of everything because they WILL lose several.
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They wsnt u to give up.
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Please don’t give up. I helped my friend apply for her survivor benefits. Her husband was a Korean vet. We had to provide a lot of documents but the check she received was a little more than her social security check. Hang in there!
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I’m having the same problem. Would love to hear any tips or tricks anyone has.
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I totally understand how you feel, I was in the same situation when my father died and mom already had dementia. Neither thought ahead and I could find anything. Had to go to 4 different places on base to start to get things done. Paper sent back because someone had a typo error. Took forever to get some help and though she got some help from Aid & Attendence( I think that’s what it’s called) it wasn’t as much as I thought it would be. They were married 57 years and he retired after 30 years in. They paid into a survival spousal support thing so, she was able to get a portion of what his retirement was. Thankful they did that!
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I applied to Aid and Attendance for my mother. I had all of my dad's paperwork. Didn't have to order anything. It was approved and she had a current check plus check for back payment in less than 2 months. She got his widow's pension plus $1350.00 a month A & A. VA office was very helpful.
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Of course they make it difficult. Illegals flood across the border and our government stands there and gives them free phones, fly them around the country, give them free housing, medical care, education, etc. But our veterans, it’s like pulling teeth to get help for them. If they even “qualify”. I’ve been in your shoes so I feel your pain and truly empathize.
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I looked in to this for my dad last week. Unfortunately because he was over the minimum assets to qualify. Everyone wants you to spend down your money you need for homeowners insurance, car insurance and home repairs & food and burial to qualify for help. In the end I will continue to take care of my dad daily so I can have 10 days off January. Those 10 days will cost my dad 5-6 thousand for care. Where as my all inclusive trip for two will only cost 2 thousand. My dad only needs help getting up and two bed. Plus dinner fixed. But most places want 4 hr min
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Grandma1954 Apr 2022
There are other programs that he may qualify for that doe not require asset limits.
Please check with your local Veterans Assistance Commission they can help navigate this and help determine what he would qualify for.
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My MIL was in same situation. We had a local attorney who specializes in VA Benefits complete the paperwork for us. Luckily, all of my FIL’s military info was in one place and easy to find. The attorney charged us $500 and the benefit was approved within 2 months with very little trouble. Best of luck to you.
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mhousto, I hope I can post here the name of the organization who helped us get my MIL's Aid and Attendance. If it gets deleted, feel free to private message me and I will give it to you. Veterans Home Care was a great help to us. https://veteranshomecare.com/

We had started with a local elder care consultant who left out some important details about the application process, which cause me considerable stress and confusion, and I was ready to throw in the towel. Hers was a for-profit business, and we didn't have any money for care to begin with. You actually have to have records of medical and/or care expenses, and we did not. She did, however, tell me about VHC, who will walk you through the application, and once they determine the applicant should qualify, they will make a no-interest loan so you can begin care right away. Benefits are retroactive to the month that you file an Intent to File form. We had some of FIL's documents, and they helped us to get the rest that are needed. I emailed or faxed everything to them and they checked it all over and sent it on to VA.

Mom ended up with several months of retro pay in a lump sum, and that's how we repaid the loan, with quite a bit left over. The one drawback is that they will administer the home care and set you up with an agency, which is how they get a little bit of a kickback for their efforts. If you are going through an agency, you'll get a lot fewer hours of care because they will charge $37/hour and pay their employee $14-$15. The agency takes care of employment taxes, workers' comp, etc. We stuck with this arrangement for about a year, just because I wanted VHC's help with the periodic reporting to VA. Once I know the ropes pretty well, I released VHC and the care agency and hired a payroll service at $45 a month and bought Workers' comp insurance at about $500 a year. We were able to almost triple the hours of care and give the caregiver $2.00/hour more than the agency paid. Releasing VHC did trigger sort of an audit from the VA, with several pages of forms to fill out, so be sure to keep detailed records of care and medical expenses from the beginning. Best of luck to you. I think you'll find it worth the effort in the end.
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My husband was a Veteran diagnosed with Parkinson's in 1999 - probably from his exposure to Agent Orange from his tour of duties in Viet Nam. Originally, Parkinson's was not one of the listed side effects of Agent Orange through VA.

My husband was good at keeping his paperwork from his army days through discharge. It was still a long, time-consuming process. Sometimes, I would have to send a document, completed form, etc., three times. Please try to keep all copies of documents you forward to VA. It might make the process easier. I originally started out by filing the paperwork in a big four-inch / three-ring binder. When he died, I had three big accounting boxes full of his paperwork to / from VA.

If you have a DAV in your area, they might be able to assist you. One does not have to be a member for this service. They were helpful to us in the Phoenix area.

I personally think VA makes it difficult on purpose - so they don't have to pay out some benefits. I've seen some people just give up. I did not want to give up - as I felt spouse deserved whatever benefits might be provided by VA. He put the time in - all those years ago. Please don't give up.

Best to you both.
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I had the same issue with my mother in law. It took several years but finally i was told bt someone to try contacting a VA agency in another county and it was night and day. They helped us cut thru all the red tape and knew where to look. She got what she deserved. I wish someone had told us to look into other VAs in neighboring counties sooner! My MIL kept every scrap but when you're dealing with someone who is lazy or incompetent, it is of no use. Try other counties or areas until you find one that cares about helping vet families!
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I would wonder why Mom does not have Dads records. Did she throw them out because she didn't think she would need them?

This is a lesson to all members that have spouses who served. Keep those records. My Mom had a drawer in her bedroom where she kept everything. TG she had Dads papers. I had worked with the government prior trying to get my nephews SSD for him. For the wheels to go a little faster you must have as much information as possible. I could have allowed the lawyer to contact Nephews previous doctors in another state, but I had already done that for his Trust. So the lawyer just recopied what I had.
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babsjvd Apr 2022
Agree! I didn’t have all my dads records, the county office for VA assistance was able to request the records…
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I am going through that process now with my mom. It does take a sit down and get it done approach. There are videos online on how to fill out the different forms as well as Google information. I think there are phone numbers you can call as well. I've never used the phone numbers. Your relative may also be entitled to Department of Defense survivor benefits as well. And yes it takes months and a willingness. I think in the long run once these benefits are in place not only will your family member benefit but you as well since some of the cost, if not all, of taking care of them will be very helpful. Success to you and your loved one.
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Widows may qualify for VA DIC which is "VA Indemnity Compensation" Pension for WIDOWS. The qualification is tricky and depends on widow's annual income.
The VA Form is 21P-534EZ.
Again, get an accredited VA Agency like DAV or better Attorney to help you apply and monitor the process.
You don't pay the attorney 20% unless your claim is approved.
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I had started the process back in April 2021. Then for whatever reason my sister felt like she needed to take over. Anyhow they had told her and me that it takes at least 6 months to get approved. Luckily he still had his dd 214. Unfortunately he passed in November so he never got the benefit and now in order to get my mom approval she needs a medical condition to start the process all over again. If approved they will make it retroactive.
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I paid a private company to complete application. I provided the documents needed. Best $1500 I ever spent.
BUT, I agree it is cumbersome. Seems like the VA would use info already in their system to approve. Maybe someone could assist you, like a church member?
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It is a tedious and long process. My dad actually died months before his VA was finished so we had to start all over with mom's request for help. I did not give up and it made a huge difference once the income started. We had applied for Aid & Attendance.

I did use the help of American Veteran's aid.
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You need, as a viable option; VA Attorney that have the knowledge and expertise to submit the VA Form application called
"Aid and Attendance".
There ate many attorneysNationwide that will do this for you. You need the Veterab's DD 214 to begin and medical documentation
This is a applications tgat takes time and detailed nedical and income information but if you qualify they can provide BACK TRACK COMPENSATION FROM DATE OF APPLICATION. You pay nothing upfront. The VA Pays the Attorney 20% of the claim value.
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I totally understand.
Before my MIL passed we tried over and over to get spousal aid from the VA that she should have been entitled to from my FIL’s time in the service.
It was always this form was needed or we didn’t have the correct info.
Absolutely ridiculous dealing with the VA system.
We eventually spoke to an Elder Care Law lawyer and he told us to give up. He said they make it so hard that often the person is gone by the time you get any money and he was correct.
I wish you the best!
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inkandpaper Apr 2022
I don't agree with the elder care law lawyer . It's tedious and takes way longer than it should, but the benefits could be signicant over the years. Hang in there.
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Have you reached out to a local home care agency in your area for assistance? The folks can assist if their is no case pending. If case is pending they can not help until pending case is closed.
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lkdrymom, are you aware that there are statutory limitations on payment for applications?   Legislative intent seems to be that Veterans should NOT have to pay others for preparation of applications for benefits.

https://codes.findlaw.com/us/title-38-veterans-benefits/38-usc-sect-5901.html and

https://codes.findlaw.com/us/title-38-veterans-benefits/38-usc-sect-5902.html

"(a)(1) The Secretary may recognize representatives of the American National Red Cross, the American Legion, the Disabled American Veterans, the United Spanish War Veterans, the Veterans of Foreign Wars, and such other organizations as the Secretary may approve, in the preparation, presentation, and prosecution of claims under laws administered by the Secretary."

There are more statutory establishments of representation issues, but this one seems to be the broad, overall mandate.
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Yes it was a difficult process. I used an attorney and it was expensive. But they do pay you from the date of the application so the back pay covered the attorney. My father received $1900 a month. It was worth the trouble.
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inkandpaper Apr 2022
DH is a disabled vet. It took over a year, and it was definitely worth the trouble. He has more financial security for the years ahead. There can be great savings as far as medical too.
The VA system is not perfect. Even now, wait times for some appointments are unreasonable,and I would say unhealthy, but still, the process is difficult. We did not use an attorney. In fact, the VA caseworker was very helpful.
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There was a large fire in St. Louis in 1973 that destroyed many get records, including my dad's.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Personnel_Records_Center_fire

80% loss to records of U.S. Army personnel discharged November 1, 1912, to January 1, 1960;[2]
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Stick it out, I did that for Mom and it paid off in the end. I still can’t figure out how one document out of +30 pages I submitted was lost but I had to send everything in again! A case worker was assigned to our case and she was a big help in getting the right information, the right documents, and financial craziness sorted out.
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