I am the middle child and get along well with most everyone including my two sisters. However they hate each other and are constantly making snide remarks to me about each other. I stay out of it and don't comment. Both are married with families. I am single. I am grieving my mother passing and will be driving 9 hours to the funeral on Monday. My older sister and her family will stay with me in my mother's house to give me some company. I have also been the go between giving the older sister important information on my mother's declining health and also the funeral arrangements. I felt that it was important as my mother's child also that she stayed informed. The younger sister doesn't want the older sister to stay in our mother's house and told me that she would fight with her on this. She then said that I was taking sides when I said why and said F*ck you too and hung up on me. She then sent me a text saying that she would not be attending our mother's funeral. The older sister also said the she and her husband would talk about it and may not attend either because they refuse to get involved in the drama. I am more than stressed out and very anxious. I will be attending alone and I am alone.
I say get through this period and carry out your mom's wishes as best as you can. Let those two deal with their own mess.
I pray your continued strength and peace in the mist of this process.
To bring this back to you, I'm pleading a case for OS as a victim of YS's anger. It sounds like you can still enjoy OS in your life while YS gets over herself, if she chooses to. Please consider staying with your plan, ignoring YS's tantrum as though it were not your problem. Which it isn't. God bless.
Was your mom's funeral closure for you and a time of peace to say goodbye? I hope for your sake that it was.
Being alone isn't necessarily a bad thing, and it beats being in the middle of so much negativity. In the future, just refuse to engage. It's very inconsiderate and unfair of them to burden you and maybe it's best they stay away from each other, even forever. It's not your failure, after all.