I have her durable power of attorney but she sneaks behind me to the point I can't sleep. She will in front of certain people tell them all kinds of things about me to try to get them to call 911. I don't know what to do. Could someone please tell me any answers thank you.
When my father with vascular dementia started having panic attacks, he would call 911 and tell them he was having a heart attack. They transported him to the ER several times where they never found anything wrong with him except high blood pressure from not taking his medications. Finally the EMT wrote a letter informing him they would not be transporting him on future calls if they felt he was not in any immediate medical danger. His geriatric psychiatrist realized he was having panic attacks and prescribed medication to prevent the attacks; didn't work all that well because Dad wouldn't take it until he was actually having a panic attack. This pattern of behavior can be dangerous. When Dad actually had a heart attack a few years later, EMTs almost didn't transport him.
All in all, isn't this a bit much for one person to try to handle alone? Do you have any professional support with your mother's health care at all? Would you mind sharing with us what has been happening?
I agree that more information would help, especially why one doctor apparently refused to treat her, or was it that the doctor didn't feel she needed his/her type of treatment?
What exactly are your mother’s medical issues?
So sorry that you are struggling. Hugs!