Just out of nowhere she'll yell out and she won't stop until you answer her. She'll continue with, "Hello, hello?" Then she'll say, "Did you call me?" or "Did you say something?" For her to shush I must answer her and say, no, I didn't call you or say anything. Lord, help me. Is this happening to anyone else?
me if If she can sleep in my bedroom with me. She'll lay the guilt trip on me with sad face and hostility. She'll sometimes say "I wish we could have a sleepover." I say were not children.." and she'll huff and puff.
It's a ritual here every night.
Mom was also trying to walk out of the front door in the middle of the night. Her doctor prescribed Seroquel and Ativan and she slept more peacefully.
Have you spoken with your mom’s doctor about this situation? Perhaps, meds would calm her down at night and she would be able to sleep without disturbing you.
I’m sorry that you aren’t getting enough sleep. It’s miserable for us to be exhausted the next day and have to endure being a caregiver.
How long has this situation been going on? Do you have any help with caring for your mom? Please seek help with your caregiving responsibilities when you need it. Call an agency or consider looking into facilities and become your mother’s advocate for her by overseeing her care by a professional staff.
Wishing you peace as you navigate through this difficult period in your caregiving journey.
Home care by family usually doesn’t work for long. When their condition gets more serious, professionals are necessary.
is anxious at night and i cannot close her door more than half way because of her anxiety. I cant close MINE either. If i dont leave my bedroom door open alittle she goes bananas. Separation anxiety.
I recommend Gretchen Staebler's fine book, Mother Lode. This memoir is about a woman taking care of her Mom from her 90s until she was 102. While she tried hard to keep her in home, the necessity of being up so much at night was one of the worst problems. Eventually, despite years of keeping mom in home, she was placed in care, where she actually did very well.