My mother paid for a burial at my dad's feet. Frederick Memorial says no they can't do it now because they have to have consent from my 2 sisters. Why can't they just do it since mother paid for it and what are my options to get it done since it is paid for?
If this burial is something specified in your Mother's valid Will, and she paid for this and can prove it, then it shouldn't matter what the Executor thinks (if it is one or both of the sisters)... even more so if they are NOT the executors.
Have an attorney write up a breach of contract letter (or something like that) to send to Frederick Memorial.
Normally a cemetery will allow in one grave plot a casket and an urn. The urn can be placed anywhere within that plot. So it doesn't make sense why a cemetery would now turn down your Mom's request especially since she had already paid for this extra service.
Cemeteries honor the request of the owner of said plot, if that request is within reason, and allowed with State laws. Something else is going on here.
This is a good time to bring up a form, Disposition of Bodily Remains. We should all have one, signed and notarized in the state where we live. That avoids haggling at a difficult time.
Susie, I'm sorry you're going through this. It must be very distressing.
The undertaker and poet Thomas Lynch, whose writings I love, has observed that once someone is dead there is nothing you can do FOR, TO, WITH or ABOUT them. Your Mom is gone and her body is ashes.
Were it me, I would likely find a way to spread these ashes (there is always so much more than you think there will be) quietly and with none knowing. Can't recommend that to YOU, and likely it isn't lawful. Just sayin.......................................
And if the above sounds just to scary or unlawful to do I would spread Mom's ashes somewhere she loved. My Mom was in a rose garden.
Best to you. And remember, if Mom paid for this and you have the contract, then you have a foot up in court when they arrest you for spreading ashes.