My sister takes my mother to the bank practically every day and lets her drink alcohol while on medication. My mother is 94-years-old. I think she has dementia. I made doctor appointments and my ssister cancels them. She does not have POA or anything. I'm my mother's caretaker and have been for over 15 years with no help. What can I do? Shehas parties at my mother's house and leaves while people are still there.
Has mom ever been assessed for dementia? Have you contacted Council on Aging in your area to get an assessment of her needs?
Are you around when your sister has these parties and leaves? Tell the guests to leave.
Do you have POA?
Have you seen her will?
If you're mom's caretaker, how is sis taking mom to the bank all the time? Do you have POA? Do you do mom's bills? If you have access to her bank account, I'm sure there's something you can do to stop these withdrawals. Like cut up mom's ATM card. Get mom evaluated for dementia.
How does sister know about the doctor appointments? Call the facility and let them know that she does not have the authority to cancel any appointments.
She's a real piece of work. How is she trying to change the will? If your mom can be declared incompetent, anything she signs will not hold up under legal scrutiny.
They may assist you in getting temporary guardianship for your mother.