She can't help her behaviors but she doesn't act out for my bf as for me somehow I believe Doris still knows right from wrong just with no filter left to maintain controll of her thoughts and actions. She is so different with my boyfriend than with me. whenever Steve is not around her demenor changes all the things she says and does around him are a complete 180 when his back is turned and she becomes nasty and violent. All of the things he had to change in her home for us to care for her she thinks i did and thinks i am tryimg to come between them. I am the one that told him to get her home for both their sakes. The facility she was in was no longer affordable and he has gone bankrupt trying to pay the extra 1,500 a month to keep her there,she only gets a little ss not enough to pay for the Really NIce Facility,it was home or skilled nursing facility. I know it is a challenge and it is not my family but they need help and i love them and placed myself in a position to be able to give her 24 hr protective and loving care. It has also become more of a challenge because she was never violent until 3 days after coming home . Steve can not do this himself and does not have the money anymore to take care of her without throwing his own (our) lives in a downward bankrupt spiral so we are trying to care for her off of her budget as much as possible. I hope that did not sound selfish not ment to be we still pay for a lot of things and do not mind. We relocated to her state, it was killing him to go to Ca from Az everyother week physically and financially