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I wrote earlier about feeling guilty that I was sure a UTI was the cause of moms confusion not Dementia. Neurologist visit confirmed Dementia,next is testing to see what kind and what stage. When can I scream and cry ?
This is one diagnosis NO ONE ever wants to hear! But, as you peruse this website and the Alzheimers site you will note there are many with this diagnosis. So take a DEEP breath! Determine your objectives and then keep that in mind as you take this journey with your Mom. My objective was to keep my Mom comfortable and to make it as easy as possible for her. I also wanted to be able to say at the end of the journey that I had done my best. We are coming up on the 2nd anniversary of my Mom's death and I have NEVER regretted any of the steps I took on her behalf. We started with more frequent visits from me, moved to companions for 3-5 hours a day, then on to live in help and after a hospitalization, a move to a memory assisted living. In the 18 months my Mom was in the AL, there were less than a handful of days that my Mom didnt' have a visitor. So, it is time to create your own objectives; assess the financial situation, pray that your Mom has her health care proxy and power of attroney papers and Will executed. My suggestion is to always be a step ahead of the need. I was looking at ALs before I even had a caregiver living with my Mom. It is an education process and I visited 9 ALs before I found the right one! And, I was in the process of looking for a nursing home about 6 weeks before my Mom passed since it didn't look like the AL would be be able to keep her much longer.
There is a lot of help here and on the Alzheimers website (much of the behavior is the same for dementia). See if there is a care givers support group for memory care seniors in your area. You may get many ideas that are specific to your area. There are a number of good books you can read; 'Love, Loss and laughter'; The 36 hour day; etc Good luck, we are all here for you.
Scream and cry at any point that you can find time, if that helps you! I'm not much of a crier myself, but it seems to be a very helpful release for a lot of people!
Geewiz has given some good advice. I confirm the value of finding a local support group, especially after you get a more specific diagnosis. Many people cry at ours, but there is a lot of laughter, too. And nobody is ever judgmental.
Hang in there! You'll find strength you didn't know you had. But it is important to recognize your limits, too.
Post here often. We'll be your online support group. That is valuable, too.
Actually, I envy you getting your mom to the neurologist & getting a diagnosis. It is awful for those of us who loved ones deny & won't go to a neurologist. It's going to be hard, but this website will help you. You can do this. We believe in you.
Support group, Area on Aging contacts, durable Power of Attorney "should she become disabled due to dementia" (sounds like it could take affect soon), one-on-one therapy (for you) if you can find it. Also try to get her in to see a neurologist, not just a neuropsychologist. See if you can get your mom counseling as well. It may help a bit. Above all, take care of yourself. Remember the old saying telling people to put on their own oxygen masks on the plane and THEN put oxygen masks on their family members! Make sure your "oxygen mask" is on!
dementia killed my mom before kidney cancer had the opportunity to . i can imagine the latter being much more physically painful . my aunt is in latter stage dementia and aside from getting a little tremble-y some days , she spends a lot of time teasing around with the nh staff . bi polar caused my mom more anguish than even eventual death from dementia . i will grant you ; dementia is rough on the carer ( s ) . the patient is going to make about as much sense as these foreigners on here trying to sell snake oil . the best first start is to learn not to dispute or correct the patient . youll crack before they will ..
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
There is a lot of help here and on the Alzheimers website (much of the behavior is the same for dementia). See if there is a care givers support group for memory care seniors in your area. You may get many ideas that are specific to your area. There are a number of good books you can read; 'Love, Loss and laughter'; The 36 hour day; etc Good luck, we are all here for you.
Geewiz has given some good advice. I confirm the value of finding a local support group, especially after you get a more specific diagnosis. Many people cry at ours, but there is a lot of laughter, too. And nobody is ever judgmental.
Hang in there! You'll find strength you didn't know you had. But it is important to recognize your limits, too.
Post here often. We'll be your online support group. That is valuable, too.
bi polar caused my mom more anguish than even eventual death from dementia .
i will grant you ; dementia is rough on the carer ( s ) . the patient is going to make about as much sense as these foreigners on here trying to sell snake oil . the best first start is to learn not to dispute or correct the patient . youll crack before they will ..