I am the caregiver to both my parents (85 & 89). I've been doing this for 3-1/2 yrs. 24/7/365. I have only had approximately 10-12 days away from their home over the last 3-1/2 yrs. I live above the garage, so I do get away to sleep! My 2 siblings live 2,000 miles away (both). How can I get them to understand this is too much for me and to have my parents realize this is unrealistic to ask anyone to do. I'm 52 yrs old and not knowing when it's our time, I'm scared my life is passing me by. What should I do? I know I need to be here for them but I need help!
Have you considered placing your parents in an assisted living facility? They could go together and you would get your life back. Since you are the only adult child involved in your parents care what you say goes. Your siblings have no right to sit thousands of miles away and dictate what you can and cannot do.
Do your parents have any resources by which they can hire some caregivers to come during the week to give you a break?
Thank you for your input. Anything is welcome.
2. Being stuck in this situation at 52, you are right, your life is passing you buy. Not only that but you are putting your life at risk since 1/3 of caregivers who try to do it 24/7 end up dying before the ones they are caring for.
3. Are you financially independent or don't you really need to get back to work so that you will have enough money for your own retirement?
4. Do your parents have the ability to make a contract with you and the means to afford to pay you for what you are doing.