Finances no clue
Memory no clue
Hygine,, shower or bath (5yrs)
Verbally abusive
Cant hear
Wont listen
Self medicator
Egocentric universe
Would like to help her help herself, but have no control of her actions, am responsible, but at times would like to run away in frustration. How do I have her evaluated, in the hope that this can be better for us. Three years of care has me going nuts. She has been on a rapid decline for 1 1/2 years.
Dementia robs people of their personality, their ability to reason, their ability to act in their own best interest, or even to recognize what that is. It is enormously frustrating for those who love them and want to help them.
There is no way to "fix" or "cure" the dementia, but there are ways to make it more manageable. This might include drug therapy, additional in-home help, moving to a care center, and definitely respite for the caregiver.
Please provide some more information about your situation, and people who have been where you are can share their experiences.
Figure out a way to get some respite! What about a day program for mom to get yourself some time? I whold not be able to do this without the help I receive from day care.