I am generally all about birthday celebrations, after all it is your day, the only one you really get! Mom passed almost 2 years ago. I don't want to even acknowledge my birthday anymore.Is that wrong? I don't want to upset anyone. Luckily this year no one is around except for my wife so I can do low key. Its not that I am depressed, I just feel weird about it. Mom always made birthdays fun, even as an adult I would get an extra card from mom just from her besides the obligatory one from both. I used to buy mom flowers on my birthday. Is this normal?
Wrong? Not at all. But if you're trying to make some sort of statement that your life isn't worth celebrating now that mom's gone, then I think you're missing out.
That's a good suggestion.
So if you have always celebrated your day, and enjoyed it not only because your mother made it very special for you, then I'd say for you no it isn't normal and it sounds like an aspect of depression. You do, do you not, have things to be depressed about - your mother's having passed, the changes in your father, the feeling that you're in for a long, heavy haul, and so on?
Low key sounds a good way to spend the day, but try to enjoy it in some small way. Perhaps, if you do this sort of thing, you could have a private word with your mother early on in the day and tell her you wish she were there to share it. After that, see how you feel about Thanksgiving and later on Christmas. And if you're not getting back into the spirit of things, or you're getting lower and lower in mood, it might be time to seek advice.
As a personal gift, I made an album which shows small photographs of the members of our family She loves chocolates, I think candy bouquet works where I can mix the flowers and candy. I wish to make her day special. Please help me with your suggestions to make her day
My Mom and I had a special bond. When I became an adult her and I would go out for Lunch and she would shyly hand me a card with money in it. We'd go browsing through the mall looking for something I could buy with the money. It makes me tear up just thinking about it. She was so special.
She died a little over a year ago and I miss those special afternoons. I am sort of ambivalent about the whole birthday thing now.