My brother and I are already not on good terms, so all this did was throw a match on the gasoline! He texts me with the attitude that I must not be taking good care of my mother, because I'm not buying her "nice" clothes.
The irony is, it's actually two CNA's (mother and daughter) that work for us but it was the adult daughter that made the comment. When they first started coming,about a month ago, the mother was wearing the same dingy t~shirt for three days in a row! I didn't say anything, though it definitely seemed a bit weird. So she hadn't bathed in three or more days? And now, wow, I'm still kind of reeling from the "secret text scenario". How bizarre, in my opinion.
but no to the question of were they hired thru an agency. No, she, the younger one, was working at a rehab my mom had to go to for a few weeks a few months ago, and she seemed nice enough, so when it became obvious that we were going to need extra help, she said "absolutely! we'd love to help you!" I was glad, but the red flag i should have noticed right away was that she then said "just don't tell the hospital that I'm working for you on the outside." I didn't think much of it, because I was only glad to have found someone that I thought could work out well. But looking back, with 20/20 hindsight, anyone that would scam their employer like that couldn't be completely honest. The other point you made o.b. was that my brother should be paying me just like he was paying them! Thank you! I've been trying to get all involved to agree with that ~ he thinks I'm full of you know what, and when i once said to the one CNA, why should he be paying only you folks when I'm doing the same thing half the time? She said, "it's called sacrifice. Besides, she's not MY mom." I have no idea how to get him to pay me anything, but frankly I don't feel like i need to be paid. I'm just wondering where all the 'salary' they (the now fired CNA's) were getting (almost 2000 a month) is going! (It's from out of my moms SS). I don't trust my brother either, who himself is a weasel POA, (I'm the healthcare POA) which is why I decided that I'm calling an elder
care attorney tomorrow morning (today being a holiday). Enough is enough. I need help! There's so much more to it, but this post is long enough already. Thanks again to all who responded ~ I don't know what I would do without this website! Hugs to everyone.......