How can I achieve it and still be the caregiver? My mom has lived with me now for 2 1/2 years. We built on an addition to our home to accomdate her with my sisters approval. Mom has been at the point where I have had to hire a caregiver to be with her when I work outside the house. My husband has to travel in his job and sometimes he is gone 6 days a week. Here is my issue, I am feeling guilty because even though I go to work each day, I don't have interaction with people. I have had to resign from the organizations I used to belong to, can't go out with the girls once a month for dinner and all the charitable organizations I helped or sat on boards I can no longer do. I know this sounds selfish, but I get up very early in the morning to make sure mom gets breakfast and is ready for when the caregiver arrives, I come straight home from work at night and take over with dinner, cleaning up any messes that may happen and finally getting her in bed. Which I don't have to tell you sometimes is not easy. I have a sister who lives a distance away and reminds me that I had a part in this decision and now I have to live with it. She will give me husband and I a week or two for a vacation each year and then posts stuff on Facebook about how wonderful she was for doing that for us!!! With paying out for daily care I don't have any money left to pay someone in the evenings or weekends to help out so I could go to dinner with my husband or even see a movie. If I am being selfish, just tell me to put my big girl pants on and tuff it up. If I am OK to feel this way, please give me some suggestions!!!!! Thanks,