My mom is currently in a 24hr care facility in FL and my dad lives in their house as he is capable of independent living. In a few months they will both be moving to a new facility where my dad, after selling his home, will be in an independent living apartment and my mom will be moved to the 24hr care facility on site. My brother has concerns about my mom visiting my dad to see where he is living and wants to keep her at the 24hr buliding and not know exactly where my dad has moved to. I am wondering what harm there may be if she came to visit him once in a while if she is able and then return to the 24hr care. The plan at present is to only have him visit her and not the other way around. If anyone could provide some input I would greatly appreciate it
I think it is great that your Dad will be moving and living in the same complex, in his own building... that way he do daily visits, and possibly join your Mom for lunch. I agree with your brother.... having your Mom visit your Dad's new location would only upset her know she wouldn't be staying with him but leaving to return to her own facility. She will see items from her previous home and that will make her homesick. Guess it all depends on her mindset.
If she doesn't have mental impairment, won't she ask him where he's living and why they moved? Seems like the issue of selling the house might come up in conversation.