I am just so angry !!!!
I phoned lifeline for help and they helped.
My brothers have nothing to do with dad and when a big decision has come up they are al experts . If you have seen my previous posts you will understand.
I am not in a frame of mind to elaborate .
Any one else at the end of there tether ?
my 25 yr old son works with me and drives me nuts but im trying to work on being more patient with him all the while holding back and letting lifes lessons introduce themselves to him in his own time. so yea, proportion is so difficult. im going to go cut wood in the wet snow today because he has sold his share of the wood cutting for pot money. hes imperfect but only a maniac would have stuck with me for this many years.
boni ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) boy, it is tough! I am working on lowering stress - it is what I can do.
cap - in my case, honestly, if the time came when I needed family, my sis would not help. I have had ample experience of that in the past . Would I help her ?Probably, because that is my nature. I hear you about your son. Three of my children are/were addicts. One is dead, one has achieved a complete recovery, and one is sober, but hard to get along with. I hung in there with them, did what I could, but the one who is still toxic is becoming more and more peripheral to my life. That's tough love, too. When you get to my age, survival becomes a bigger issue.
We don't have the power to change others or anything else in the world. All we can control is our reaction to what is.
What makes these family issues particularly difficult is that under it all we love the other people, whether we want to admit it or not. And that's okay. Of course we love our family. Although in some cases it's best to love from afar. Right?
Blessings to you for the freedom that comes with letting things BE.
We are all products of our environments. We can control ourselves and our feelings, but nobody else's.
Thanks for your insights
I don't hate my family just there actions
I am getting better
Dad is a sweetie . Any way , I am not getting involved with there decision , I will just keep on loving dad and spending time with him.
My brothers have made there own bed
i also learned that he who angers you controls you.
its an ongoing process tho.
so me and the bastard kid went and cut him a load of wood today. i was kind and showed much restraint. it was good quality time and i know he understood the concept. sometimes i roar but then give him space and time to think. kind of like a dam hog. you give a 300 lb hog time to think or he'll bust both your legs and your spine. lol. jake would make 3 of me. have to choose my battles..
Dad is still in the home that isn't great and mum is still complaining to me about it. My brother claims it was her decision not to move dad !!!
I think that is poppycock
When looking for an attorney you might want to make sure you retain a litigator. There are many elder law attorneys that are good for estate planning and such, but in situations like mine and maybe yours, an attorney with significant court room experience is needed.
Luckily they realised me knowing i was just heart broken and not crazy
This morning I am with you. May be my turn tonight.
When something doesn't go my siblings way, the shit hits the fan. If I ask for help, I am attacking them. If I call them on something, I am picking on them. If I ask for help in paying for something, they are all broke.
I stopped asking. I dislike them immensely. I don't hate them but sometimes I get so angry that I feel like I do.
I do not like my drama filled family and will change my phone number once my mom passes and all her things are distributed. MY life is better without them.
If I ever needed help from them, for any reason, I would not get it. Would I help them in the future? If they can't contact me I will never know.
Sounds cold? In my heart I have no feelings for them.