My daughter asked me to move in with her and split rent and utilities. After three months, she is mad at me because I asked for her half of the utilities money. The utilities are in my name because she has had problems paying bills and can not get utilities in her name. She is hateful to me and will not talk to me. She will not answer text massages or phone calls. She thinks I'm cheating her on the utilities. I show her the bills on paper and it doesn't make any difference. I don't know what she expects. I am not in the best of health. I do not own a car or drive. She works and makes over twice of what mt SSI is. She won't do any thing for me or help me in any way. I would move in some place by myself but I do not have a way or money to move. I wish there was someplace or someone that would help me.
You had to put the utilities in your name because she doesn't pay her bills. To them. Nor to you. Be glad your name isn't on the lease.
Maggie's right; if the situation is this bad you need leave, go back to the place you were living, and leave your daughter to fend for herself.
Call United Way helpline at 211 and ask how you can get assistance to move out and back to the place where you were living. Call a local tv station to ask for help if you have to. (I assume your daughter helped you move in?)
But remember this incident if your daughter wants you to move back again.
Does Daughter drive you around a lot? Who pays for food? If she think you should be paying more than 1/2 the rent and 1/2 the utilities, I suppose you could discuss that, but the way to start the discussion is not to simply refuse to pay her share of the utilities. And she thinks you are cheating her? Sad, sad, sad.
I think you could have a better relationship living apart. Please leave. Call the United Way helpline. Call the Seniors helpline. Do what you have to do, but move out, and remove your name from the utilities.
Have you tried Section 8 housing? I believe rent is calculated as a function of your SS income.
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