my ninety-two year old mum still does not ask them to do My Mum has Medicaid to pay for the Home Attendants, which she calls "Aids". ALso Medicare and pensions from being a teacher. She is ninety two now. The Guild net has provided her now three t=different vendors for these Home Attendants and evaluated her, posting "to-do" lists on refrigerator. Sometimes these Attendantd DO the "light housekeepeng", often times lately, they do not and Mum apparently does not ASK nor command them to do it! Amazing to me, since she was all over me as a boy to do chores, lol I understand she is not energetic like that now and has worsening dementia, and balance/walking issues due to lumbar degeneration according to her neurologist. it is like she is forgetting how to walk! And the Home Attendants do not make her walk with them, I think, if she resists, even though it is part of their "to-do" list daily to walk her up the block and back with the walker. H-E-L-P! I am at wit's end trying to suggest and asking Mum to be more supervisory on them. She has the indoor stairlift by the way, and could ride upstairs to check on them, but does not. Tonight there was a smoke alarm in the house, due to the fact that no Home Attendant of the eight or so has cleaned her oven since the Spring of this year! I remember the last one who did, but she suddenly quit in June. I am the oldest and only son and moving out of state soon for new employment and marriage. Getting DMM ans go between and leaving trusted one on the block to help officially. How to get these Home Attendands to be consistent, devoted, thorough and pro-active is my final summary question to the community here. Thank you.
Is it time to move mom to a care facility ?
I think MsMadge and Babalou's suggestion of a facility is very good if no one is going to be around to supervise your mother's care. I don't know if I would trust a friendly neighbor to take on such a huge task as monitoring the situation. That could be quite a chore. Does your mother choose to stay at home? It makes more sense to move to a facility.
Have you met with any of the aides personally to go over the list, do they even know it is there? I find that over time things like notes on the fridge just seem to blend into the background a be forgotten unless they are changed and gone over frequently.