I am an only child....my mother passed away in 2006. My father has lung/kidney cancer, hospice care, no treatment. He is staying at my aunt and uncle's house because Dad's house is not easily assessable. My aunt and uncle are my angels..and so is my other uncle that has been staying to help out as well for a limited time. I have 3 children (12/15/15) and they have been affected by this all as well as they are very close to their Grandpa. They have made some not so good choices this summer and I know it is because they are grieving as well and also because I am not home much. Dad is a 2 person assist and does not sleep well at all at night. I try to get there as much as I can, usually 2-3 times a week and every other weekend I am there. It's wearing on everyone. I am TOTALLY burned out to the point I am wishing that God would take Dad Home so that he is not suffering and this craziness I am living will calm down a bit. And then I have the chore of dealing with everything else....all by myself.....yep my Aunt and Uncle will be right by my side...but still in the end it is ALL on my shoulders.
Is there anyone else out there that is an only child? I'd love to find someone to talk to and find support and help support as well.........I never knew that I could deal with so much but I will say I am feeling that I am at my limit now and praying to God that He doesn't add anything else to my plate because it is FULL!!!
What I'm not understanding is this...it sounds as though your aunt and uncle are caring for him, living with him 24/7. What am I missing as to what YOU are so burned out?
Thank goodness you have such good help for your father! Maybe you and your kids can enjoy days off together and then work as a team to offer days off for your aunt and uncles.