Jerry's home health nurse practitioner just left. She immediately recognized in Jerry what I have suspected; she recommended palliative care. The nurse practitioner also said that hospice would also be appropriate, because she does not expect Jerry to live longer than another six months.
Jerry knows none of this and neither does his sister or his estranged daughter. Does anyone have experience with palliative care?
Since then it seems to have become a way of delivering cheap sub-standard care that is less about providing for the patient's needs and comfort and that is more a means of promoting and hastening rather than supporting the natural dying process.
As soon as someone is diagnosed with dementia, with cancer or following a stroke, members of a hospital's "palliative care" team swoop in and push the DNR agenda and promote hospice benefits. What they often fail to inform families about is that choosing hospice means giving up all personal control over treatment choices, etc. and that there can be extreme differences in how patients, families, and hospice agencies interpret "comfort care." At some agencies, "comfort care" means treating urinary tract infections to prevent fevers and delirium; other agencies, however, don't treat infections of any kind. Some agencies provide nutritional support (Ensure, Boost, etc.) and some don't--some restrict nutritional support to patients "who can't eat anything else at all."
My advice to families? Don't choose hospice unless death is but a few days away, and opt for in-patient brick-and-mortar hospice if you can. That way, there's a much better chance that your loved one will be fed and medicated for pain in a timely manner. Have enough family members available who can sit vigil at the bedside to watch and speak for the patient.
If the patient is indeed 'terminal' -- choose palliative care, because with palliative care you have more options. When the palliative care team at the hospital comes knocking, ask the palliative care nurse to tell you who he or she is employed by. Some palliative care professionals work for the hospital and some for outside agencies and some work double-duty (which I see as a conflict of interest, but that's another lengthy discussion worthy of a thread in itself!).
If instead you believe that hospice would be a good choice for you, enter the situation well-prepared! Demand to be provided a list of hospice agencies from which to choose from; that is your right under Medicare. Go visit a few agencies; interview the staff. Ask questions about their philosophy on end-of-life care, for example, do they treat infections? Read their contracts carefully! Obtain a contract that has specifics about what kinds of care is delivered! Do they promise nurse visits three times a week? Do they promise to provide 'light housekeeping'? Wound care supplies? If so, tell them that you want to see that IN WRITING! Don't accept a hospital discharge until YOU are satisfied that you have selected an agency that meets YOUR specifications -- not the hospital's or the palliative care team's. You can appeal a discharge to Medicare; the hospital must provide you with a document that has details on how to file an appeal. Don't allow social work or other hospital staff to frighten you into thinking that an appeal will fail or that you "might" have to pay for the in-patient days spent in the hospital during the time of the appeal.
A contract that specifies each of the services to be delivered is especially important if the patient resides in an assisted living facility or nursing home. It's so easy for hospice to shirk responsibility in those situations and for facility staff to expect hospice to deliver care that they might otherwise be responsible for. What happens too often in those situations is that the patient suffers repeated episodes of 'missed care' because it has not been made explicitly clear who is now responsible for what aspects of routine care. When hospice can't provide a service-specific contract, have hospice promises documented by the facility in the patient's personal nursing care plan.
Also, not all hospice agencies are the same! My relative went under hospice care for a month. What a JOKE that was! All of this particular hospice program's nurses lived in a city that is 35 miles away and never wanted to come at night if she needed them (she PF and CHF and was having panic attacks).
They dropped off a pain kit (morphine, Haldol, Tylenol suppositories) and made it pretty clear the family was expected to handle any administrating of these meds. She lived alone, did not have a sitter, and I lived 20 miles from her. This relative thought she wanted to be on hospice because she thought it meant someone would be coming to help her shower and do light housekeeping. NOPE. I seized upon this awful experience to convince her to go to AL, which she had strongly resisted for 2 years despite desperately needing to do so. She agreed to move and is thriving there. I'm 100% convinced she'd be long dead if she had stayed home and under this particular hospice program.
Hospice is an insurance benefit that is appropriate when the patient has a life expectancy of six months or less, and curative treatments are no longer working or the person decides that the burdens outweigh the hope for improvement. That is why hospice doesn't pay for curative treatment like chemotherapy or heart surgery. It does pay for treatment and medications that will keep the person comfortable. It also pays for medical equipment like a hospital bed, wheelchair, and oxygen. It also pays for a team of people who visit the person wherever they are (home, AL, NH) to provide care and support the family. This includes nurse visits, social work visits, home health aides, and sometimes chaplains, music therapy and even massage therapy. But it almost never includes 24-hour care, so family will have to provide this if needed, or hire private duty caregivers.
I like to think of Palliative Care as an umbrella that provides care for a larger number of people when the illness gets more complex, and then hospice is brought in under that umbrella for end-of-life care. Many people are only on hospice for a few days, but the benefit is available for six months or more, as the person is evaluated every 90 days to see if they still qualify and so the overall time can be extended.
Hope this helps!
I suppose she could have returned home in palliative care, but her condition deteriorated so rapidly once she went on palliative care, the hospital suggested she come home on hospice. By that time, she was non-verbal and has slipped into a coma-like state. We could have had as much hospice nursing as we wanted, but we had family, so we could really do for her what the hospice nurses did. They came by three times a day to see how we were holding up. I can’t say enough about how the hospital personnel and the hospice personnel treated us during this time. From the time Mom went on palliative to the time she passed away, it was a matter of six days.
So... palliative care is the medical side of keeping your mother comfortable... mom has a catheter, as much oxygen as she wanted, pain killers, any good she would have taken in. She did not have IVs. She could have decided to stop palliative if she wanted anytime and had any medical intervention she chose. But she chose to quietly slip away. Hospice was the part that kept her clean, gave her (and us) the emotional support we needed, let us know if she was in pain, monitored her vitals. But none of that beeping, noisy, clamor of being infused with a bunch of medical interventions that were just going to keep her around but never let her live... if you know what I mean.
LET ME EMPHASIZE IN BOLD LETTERS--DNR STILL MEANS YOU TREAT THE PATIENT. IT DOES NOT MEAN DO NOT TREAT. For some reason people think it means "do nothing let them die" even doctors and nurses.. It means no CPR. That's all it means. So don't let "DNR" scare you. But you have to make sure the doctors and nurses know what DNR means because a lot of them don't. Even under hospice you can STILL TREAT.
She qualifies for hospice with her heart failure, but we are giving her some time on new diuretic to see if her condition may improve.
Palliative care manages patients with chronic conditions that will not be cured.
I hope this helps. Her palliative care services are paid for with grant monies.
all the best to you in this difficult time
I was confused, too, with the difference between Palliative Care and Hospice. The NP went over her meds with me and asked questions, regarding Mom's eating habits, toileting, and her overall activities of daily living. Palliative Care, in my mother's case, will come and visit her every two weeks, more if she thinks it's necessary. The NP has taken Mom off of Xarelto, because she said that at this stage, the risk of Mom taking it is worse than what the drug is preventing. The NP told me I could call her anytime with any concerns I have. She also told me that she wanted to "observe" Mom for a while to see if she will be ready for Hospice services sooner rather than later.
My mother has declined considerably since she moved into her AL facility almost 6 months ago. She will be 85 in March.
Hope my story helps.
My mom had Parkinson’s disease and passed away over 7 years ago at 82. She was on and off of hospice care, because she sometimes improved. At the end, she had pneumonia and I was able to get an ER doctor to order hospice and send her back to her room in her nursing care facility where she was surrounded by sweet, caring nurses and was only 2 doors down from my dad. She was kept comfortable in those last days, and I was so grateful for all those who cared for her.
Just tweaking medicines (which Palliative and Hospice doctors/nurses do), can make it more pleasant for a patient. My uncle who was on blood thinners for years, should have been taken off the ones he was taking. He ended up with major intestinal bleed and passed away 4 weeks ago. Blood thinners only help to a certain point, and then the side effects can become dangerous. I’m glad the NP took your mom of Xarelto.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/palliative-care-what-is-it-and-how-is-it-different-from-hospice-197744.htm
Hospice, "end of life", will provide a nurse practitioner, a team of people to come in every week, one to bathe the person once or twice a week, a nurse every week, and a religious person of their faith to come in if you want. Hospice is not only for the patient; they are there for the family, you, the caretaker, too. . They will listen and talk as long as you need.
This also means, that they will evaluate the patient every 30 days or so to see if the patient still needs these services.. They can graduate out of these services.. Mom did 2 times, the last time, she went "home".
Mom was on hospice: aunt is on palliative care.
DOCTOR SHOULD REQUEST HOSPICE. THEY WILL EVALUATE AFTER 30 DAYS.
If Jerry isn't seeking treatment for what ails him then hospice would help you care for him and provide medical equipment for his comfort, like oxygen, hospital bed, bath aides, skin ointments and other things. He will be able to continue any medications that he is on and if he decides that he wants heroic measures then you fire hospice and go to the hospital. You still have choices.
Some people end up getting better because they are getting the rest and care they need. It doesn't necessarily mean a death sentence, but it is intended to help people that have been diagnosed with 6 months or less to live.
I think palliative care and hospice care are the same thing in some areas. Just taking the fear out of the verbiage used I suppose.