Anyone have a parent who receives funds from the state for home health care but uses it for other things? Then expects his "kids" to do all the things so he doesn't have to "pay" someone and makes you feel bad because you don't have time to do it all?
If I were one of the kids, I would not do for free what he is receiving funds to pay someone to do.
Unless there is some really compelling extenuating circumstance here, like he uses the cash for a drug he could not otherwise afford, I might even be tempted to report his behavior to the funding source.
The amount of money my mother has wasted over the past decade on QVC is shocking.
I offer to pay for an exercise class for mom - no she doesn't want too. She does go to church but doesn't have any friends from there. She has no friends but she's a fun person. She is 57 and says she's done with life. won't go to a therapist - i offered to pay go with anything. i talk to her every week. I see her once a week or every other week. She wants to know when i'm moving back so we can live together. Yet she's happy i am engaged but not really since she has to "share" me. She moved to be closer to her grandkids with the $800 she had a few years ago. live with her son and get a job. Didn't work out so she moves back to my place and winds up staying a year. She has her own place and i want to see her happy but i am tired that its all on my shoulders- which i know its not my responsibility anymore but i hurt for her. I hurt for my dad. I'm tired of hearing what they don't want to do.
Thank you thank you thank you! i'm trying to remember that!
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