Caretaker is over inflating hours and by taking food. Caretaker hates me, the son. Do I just walk away, turn my head? do I confront her? do I try and convince parents to make a change (but they are afraid there is no one out there better)???? She's made herself indispensable
If you are constantly complaining, she hates you.
If she is eating the food you used to take home, you hate her.
C'est La Vie.
As I had answered your other post, the key thing is that your parents like this Caregiver and in my book that is at the top of the list. So many of our elders refuse to let any strangers into their house, so you are lucky your parents are letting her in, and you aren't the one being the full time caregiver.
Does she claim 40 hours on her bill, even though she took a couple hours off to go to the dentist, or does she consistently work about 30 and bill for 40? How do you know?
You apparently don't care for her personality. I just wonder how much that is coloring your perception.
Could you put a dollar value on the "ripping off"?