I'm seeking advice whether to encourage separation and living in different spaces? My dad's health is declining, he has anxiety and will not take medications prescribed. He drives the family crazy bossing people around and won't take initiative to do things himself. My mom contributes to the issues by degrading his confidence and continual worrying about falling down. Help... :(
Hard to see them bickering constantly.
Stressful situation. Hope things become resolved soon.
This is what I've been thinking about. Are either one of them incompetent? If they are both still competent, then, it's really up to them where they live and if they wish to stay together. Also, a separation could have legal consequences that they may not anticipate. So, if they separated, each would need to see their own attorney to figure out what their rights and responsibilities are. Could separating impact their eligibility for benefits? Are they now in IL?
Have they always argued?
in my experience if they have always argued it doesn’t really matter about what.
They are just going to argue.
you could try separating them but they probably are mutually codependent and will want to be together.
Is mom on antianxiety meds? It may work to treat her.
Do they both have dementia? Have they been tested?
Perhaps there is an adult daycare nearby that one could attend.
Contact your Area Agency on Aging for a needs assessment.
They can also let you know of services that might be of benefit.
if this is new behavior check for a UTI.