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When my mom was dying, only had about 1 or 2 weeks to live, I texted my sibs. They all complained how much a last minute ticket would cost. I didn't care. I've been helping dad caregive mom for 23 years, with not much help from sibs. Mom was bedridden for over 13 years. They had the money to go on trips several times a year, pay for hotel, etc.., So don't complain to me that a last minute ticket would cost them $3,000.00. They had 13 years to save up for that emergency ticket for mom.
Equinox, your brothers know the situation with mom. They could have been saving for that eventuality. But they didn't. They will just have to figure out the best way to come - whether it's by train or the Greyhound bus, etc... Borrow a family member's car and drive it. Or do the online thing. (I don't have skype.) Whatever happens, it's not your fault that your brothers cannot be there for mom. They're adults. They should have set aside an emergency provision for this eventuality. So, when that guilty feeling pops up, push it away.
I agree with pam. They can manage to do what is most important to them, and that's their responsibility. Air fare is not insurmountable if they want to see Mom.
It's not just the airfare. It's the place to stay and food. My youngest brother thought I had income from property . He has his own agenda. He hasn't called his mom for 6 years. He says he was homeless for a while. He left Florida when he wasn't homeless and went to another state and became homeless. Over the years he was receiving money from my mom. We spoke and he said he will try to save money for amtrak. It will take him 3 months so he thinks she can stick around for 3 months we will see. I'm at peace that we talked cause I didn't want him to say I didn't want him to see her because paying his transportation is not an option. There are expenses that I will be paying myself. Thank you for your understanding.
We can't be responsible for other people's choices. He will do what he can do, and if he can't get there, then let it go. You tried to warn him of the time frame.
I don't know that you MUST, but it might be the sweet thing to do, if you can afford it.
Does your mother have the funds to spare? Perhaps she could contribute.
Can you help them hunt for low cost airfare or provide the room and board once they arrive to help offset costs? If they have the ability to be flexible with their travel, some airlines have really low cost seats on their least travelled flights. Or they could do layovers rather than fly non-stop.
The fact of the matter is, they may have to make a choice between coming before and coming for the funeral.
Is driving totally out of the question? Maybe a bus? I don't really have the advantage of knowing how far they have to travel and if they are in a rural or metropolitan area. Perhaps if they live near enough, they could ride together, hire a nephew to drive if necessary.
Great answers. Ident haver he funds and neither does my mom. One bro is in Florida lives with his daughter and the other bro is in Boston. They say they have no funds and neither can I afford it. Thank you for your suggestions,
Can you or Mom afford to pay their airfair? If you can, then send them a cashiers check for a certain amount of funds, and tell them to come in a spend a few minutes with MOm......
I did that with my brother. Told him to come down and spend a few minutes with Mom, and the rest with our other brother before he died. He didn't cash the check until almost a year later. He came down for our brother's funeral......Nice....It wasn't about mom,it was to spend time wit the person I knew who was going to go first.....
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Equinox, your brothers know the situation with mom. They could have been saving for that eventuality. But they didn't. They will just have to figure out the best way to come - whether it's by train or the Greyhound bus, etc... Borrow a family member's car and drive it. Or do the online thing. (I don't have skype.) Whatever happens, it's not your fault that your brothers cannot be there for mom. They're adults. They should have set aside an emergency provision for this eventuality. So, when that guilty feeling pops up, push it away.
Does your mother have the funds to spare? Perhaps she could contribute.
Can you help them hunt for low cost airfare or provide the room and board once they arrive to help offset costs? If they have the ability to be flexible with their travel, some airlines have really low cost seats on their least travelled flights. Or they could do layovers rather than fly non-stop.
The fact of the matter is, they may have to make a choice between coming before and coming for the funeral.
Is driving totally out of the question? Maybe a bus? I don't really have the advantage of knowing how far they have to travel and if they are in a rural or metropolitan area. Perhaps if they live near enough, they could ride together, hire a nephew to drive if necessary.
Thank you for your suggestions,
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