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My husband sits 24/7 in rocker staring out the window. He will not go to his bedroom and go to bed, but no matter when I check on him day or night he is never asleep just staring. Wouldn't his body just go to sleep after so long like normal people??
Firstly, your husband is not "normal". He is nearing the end of his life. Unless you never sleep, how do you know he is not sleeping? He could be "sleeping" with his eyes open as the brain messages don't get to his muscles in order to close his eyelids. Don't sweat the small stuff, just love him for the time he has remaining. God bless you both.
Agree with ferris. Be thankful that this is all he is doing,not roaming, yelling or abusing you. One thing to be aware of is to ask his Dr about his eyes drying out especially if you never see him blink. that could become very painfu la nd cause him to go blind.
Thank you for your answers, we've been through 3 yrs of wandering in the car and disappearing for days, until they removed his License, then on foot. We went through violence to the extent he threatened me with a gun. The Police were at my house 2-3 times a week. He stolen valuables and hidden them. No I know hes not normal, and I am grateful that all that is behind me and hes now just sitting in one chair and staring. But I was just wondering since he never seems to sleep.
I sometimes send questions to Alzheimer Association. My husband's speech was the first thing to stop. Many people said that was not normal, he didn't have alz, he was in the last stages. That was 5 years ago. Alz Asso explained it all to me, and I felt much better.
Are you sure his dementia is of the Alzheimers type? It sounds more like the behavioral variant of Frontotemporal Dementia. AD medications generally are not right for FTD patients. Please check out the organization AFTD.
Thanks for all the suggestions He is not on any medications so that's not the problem he refuses to see a doctor. Our family doctor dropped us because I refused to put him in a Nursing home 2 yrs ago and lose everything. . In the past 3 weeks I talked him into going back to his bed, now he is in it 24/7 just sleeping unless I wake him up for a meal. He can't figure out how to use silver ware and tears his food apart with his fingers, but will not allow me to cut it up for him. Anyone have any suggestion for me?? I am about to implode, I was one whos terrific job took them on the road every day and I was a very social person I hated being in one place very long. I haven't been out of this house except for errands for 3 yrs. My day starts at 6 am and I do nothing but work on the house, land, pets and deal with an difficult hateful husband.I can't think about anything but that I just want to walk out the door and slam it behind me!!
Oh, Maddie, how I wish I could talk people into spending some of their money to hire care givers. (You indicate you have some to lose because you mention not wanting to lose everything.) It's time to lose SOME and hire an in-home companion once a week or twice a month. You will be amazed at the difference that will make in your life.
If there's an adult daycare provider in your area, look into it. Mom's is $57/day with a nutritious dinner-type lunch. $53 if you pack it for him -- which might be smart because of his tendency to eat with his hands.
See an elder care attorney about protecting YOUR part of your assets; and spend HIS. You are only saving HIS portion for Medicaid. That makes no sense at all. There are things that can be done . . . but it must be done in advance of applying. Like, that'd be NOW.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
He can't figure out how to use silver ware and tears his food apart with his fingers, but will not allow me to cut it up for him.
Anyone have any suggestion for me?? I am about to implode, I was one whos terrific job took them on the road every day and I was a very social person I hated being in one place very long. I haven't been out of this house except for errands for 3 yrs. My day starts at 6 am and I do nothing but work on the house, land, pets and deal with an difficult hateful husband.I can't think about anything but that I just want to walk out the door and slam it behind me!!
Oh, Maddie, how I wish I could talk people into spending some of their money to hire care givers. (You indicate you have some to lose because you mention not wanting to lose everything.) It's time to lose SOME and hire an in-home companion once a week or twice a month. You will be amazed at the difference that will make in your life.
If there's an adult daycare provider in your area, look into it. Mom's is $57/day with a nutritious dinner-type lunch. $53 if you pack it for him -- which might be smart because of his tendency to eat with his hands.
See an elder care attorney about protecting YOUR part of your assets; and spend HIS. You are only saving HIS portion for Medicaid. That makes no sense at all. There are things that can be done . . . but it must be done in advance of applying. Like, that'd be NOW.