I recently obtained a guardianship for my 89-year-old mother who has Alzheimer's. She is in complete denial and very angry when I try to have any conversation about the dementia and the changes that are coming. She won't leave her apartment except to walk a mile away to the grocery store to buy cigarettes. I am not able to go through her papers because she will not let me without hitting me. She will not get in the car for a doctors appointment and so I am even worried about how to place her in a nursing home if she will not physically get in my car. I feel like my only option is to call and ambulance service for non emergency to take her anywhere which is quite expensive and that will be under force. She is so paranoid about going anywhere with us because we had to trick her to get her in the car to go to the longevity center to be officially diagnosed. So because of this I cannot trick her again to leave the premises. I know that I have the legal right to make these choices for her but was wondering if anyone else has gone through this particular problem that has received legal guardianship.
So...are you prepared to have to force her? Get the sheriff to help. Is there such a thing in your area as "marshals of the court"? They can be called on to help.
Or, hire a couple of large guys to do this.
But..this is not going to be done in a manner that will not be traumatic to both you and grandma. Brace yourself. Or...hire a person to implement this, and you stay away until after it is done. Then..blame "those people".
Has she seen a geriatric psychiatrist? It always seems to me that if the psych meds are straightened out, the rest of the process always becomes easier.