Two years age my sister secretly obtained POA over mom and had her declared incompetent to make decisions. She secretly (at first) moved her to independent living and then assisted living since she became almost totally dependent on caregivers. The first move required downsizing her personal belongings and furniture. In the next move everything had to go. My sister told me that everything had been sold to pay for part of her care or given away since it had no resale value.
I just found out my sister has been using her furniture and other belongings and taken possession of valuable (to me) family keepsakes. Very little was sold. There is a will which calls for a 50/50 split. I feel used! The value in mom's things is mostly sentimental. Mom is unable to comprehend what was done. Does a POA have the right to use the subjects things. Is there anything illegal?
What do you mean that she "secretly" obtained POA?
Are you saying that you did not know your mother's location each time she moved? How long was it before you discovered where she was, and how did you find out?
Did your sister "buy" the items she is using? Did mother give them to her? What is sister's explanation?
A will has no bearing on this situation at all. A will applies when someone dies.
Does Mom have dementia? Who cared for her before her moves?
It seems that your mom is in the right place getting the care she needs, so it seems your sister HAS been doing what is best for her.
Spend your energy on sharing some pleasant time with mom.
Sounds like your sister has a bunch of old furniture, which by your own admission had low resale.
Take a clue from the Disney movie about 2 sisters and Let It Go.
You say there isn't much of financial value ... since Medicaid approved an application that must be the case. So what is it you want to fight your sister for? There must be something you left out if there is an issue worth hiring a lawyer to resolve.
The people in the group are not clairvoyant. We only know the facts written. If you think there has been mismanagement of money, contact Adult Protective Services in your parents' county. A POA is required to give accounting of their activities when asked. If it is determined she has misused the POA, then they will deal with her.
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