He acts like only he should know. Was just reading some conversations on here and one raised a question. Mom was put in a nursing home by now POA brother, who never speaks to me anymore, and has copied her will in his computer. When we were still speaking 2 years ago he showed it to me and was acting like he was doing me a favor by showing it to me. What I read on here that if there was a dispute on the division of assess that one would have to show a copy of the will to contest such. How would I get a copy now to know? He and his immediate family have already gone they her stuff and divided it amongst them.
If you two are estranged, you might want to call him and have a conversation that you hope he is cataloging and accounting estate items should something happen to mom. Is he executor of will? Are you? Are you co-executors?
I wouldn't argue now, but I would state to him that you and other family members expect the executor to properly carry out the terms of moms will.
Is mom competent or is she deemed incompetent? If she is competent, you can ask her if she would share the will or please ask if she would mind filing a copy with you and other sibs.
These are touchy subjects. My parents shared nothing with us kids. We know they have a will, POA, AMD, but my parents were private and now mom has some dementia with paranoia and she will not trust any of us with a copy. Neither does lawyer have a copy, and mom has hidden it so many times she can no longer find it. Straightening out her estate or making decisions on her behalf if she is hospitalized will be a nightmare for us.