My mom has dementia which has progressed to the point that she worries she has no money. Her financial advisor told her she has no worries and has plenty of money. Up until now she has compensated me for my 24/7 live in care. Now she says she cant pay me because she has no money. I feel like a skunk writing my own check, but i quit my job for her and we still have to pay rent at our apartment, where my saintly husband lives with our dogs. Suggestions?
To my other friends, I think we will just leave things as they are and not take any chances. Cant be too careful. Mom is having more strokes lately, so i dont have a lot of time to worry about it.
Does anyone know of something that i can use to lift mom from the floor to bed? Thanks again friends, and that goes for you Sylvester.
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I have a personal care contract with my Mother that We signed, had witnesses, and notarized.
I catherize her 2 times a day which a care agency charges up to $70 for. I pay myself $18 an hour and that includes that service as well as showering, meds, Dr.'s and walking her dog 2 times a day. I do not charge for personel time with her, nor for taking care of her bills although i probably could. I have siblings who do not participate in any of this so I don't feel guilty (most of the time). I made her will up to give equal shares to all of us. I doubt there will be anything left. Paying me is much cheaper than assisted living ( where they don't catherize) or a visiting nurse, and or, a nursing home. She is making a little progress since she can now have her dog in the independent section although she is in bed 18 hours a day. I went to my daughter's graduation and she had a setback. She is totally dependent on me and it scares me.
Just like she did her best raising me, I am doing my best.
Best of luck and know that you are not alone in this.
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