Mom(82) is in another country and has mild dementia. She lives in an AL there which is not a memory care or anything. The AL is ok only if you are mental faculties are good.
So: does anyone know if security cameras can be installed overseas and I can monitor from my laptop here in America?
2) Also, all my cousins have their parents living with them or their siblings either here or overseas - the parents are not alone or in any AL. So I will get a lot of grief for not moving mom over to America. How do I tell them politely to MYOB and that mom is better off in her AL place (with an aide eventually)?
I am thinking of applying for a green card for mom but I am very tense about living with mom 24/7 and burning out...
Thank you so much.
NCB (nocarebear since I'm dreading the caregiving process:-((
PS: I did have another login for this website but it's not letting me log in at all. Whom do I contact for technical support? How do I go back to that login?
As for spy cameras, here in the US, if you have one posted in a public place, like a facility, you have to post a notice that one or more are in use. Some have said that this rule isn’t true for patients’ rooms, but I’ve heard differently. Personally, I wouldn’t want to take a chance on being charged with invasion of privacy especially if Mom has a roommate. For certain you should check with the administrators of Mom’s facility. Better safe than sorry.
Dementia gets worse, no cure. Eventually Mom would need longterm care that would cost 10k a month. Unless, you are willing to give up ur life 24/7 to care for her. On average a Dementia person lives five years at the minimum. They become combative, incontinent, need help bathing, toileting, etc. ALso, as a Dementia person bringing her to a different country and different culture her Dementia could accelerate. Then its getting her here. She could flip out on the plane. I agree with you, she is better where she is. About being hooked up for watching her, that would be up to the facility.
If I did install a webcam in mom's house, I'd definitely notify everyone there. I just want to know if international webcams exist?
I agree I should not be a lemming but I do feel bad that mom will be the only person living "alone" and not with her kids. If she stays back at her AL, I guess I will be spending a fortune on airfare...
Thanks again.
NCB