My son got a severe head injury at age 17 and he is now 51. He has lived with his Dad for 45 years and his Dad is now 79. Their days of independent living are coming to an end and they need a place that cooks, cleans, makes sure they take baths, gives them their meds and a safe place to sleep. I just can not do it all anymore.
Depending on Dad’s ability, it would be good to talk it through with Dad BEFORE you start contacting agencies that will need to contact him to do an assessment etc. It would be a bit of a slap if he learned about the problems from them, not you. And it won’t be all that good if you make a decision about what’s best, and just present it to him as ‘what’s going to happen’.
Why isn't it Dad's decision?
https://www.usa.gov/disability-financial-support
https://www.needhelppayingbills.com/html/disability_financial_assistanc.html
https://www.voa.org/people-with-disabilities
https://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2016/01/14/10-special-needs-organizations-you-should-know-about/
AND then local aging organizations for the husband. See what is available. And talk to local cna businesses.
Good luck.
Have you spoken to the Area Agency on Aging in your locale about what services are available? Have your guys had a "needs assessment"?
I always think that's where good planning starts, with professionals telling you what your loved one's need.
Try calling your area agency on aging and ask them to go visit them for a needs assessment to help find them housing.