We moved mom into an assisted living facility close to her home. It is 50 miles round trip. I have to go twice a week to check on her. I do her laundry, take her to run errands, handle all her finances, deal with the hospice and care givers. Can I get reimbursed for my mileage expenses? It is really starting to add up.
Mileage and other direct expenses should be reimbursed at actual costs. For mileage, if you are doing this as a personal services contract (a business) the federal rate for mileage for 2012 is .555. If you don't go the personal services contract route, then you can deduct your mileage from your taxes at .22 for medical and .14 for other charitable mileage.
Also mom needs to pay the attorney from her funds. If you pay & you benefit, other family members could (later on) challenge this as a coerced action.