Drs have ran test but can't find anything. She is 83 and she admitted herself to a personal care last year saying she can't take care of herself. She's over weight and suffers from COPD refuses to do any kind of activity just sits in a chair all day long. She's very scared to even take a car ride. The doctors didn't even want to admit her to the hospital this time but my husband insisted they said that all the preliminary test came back normal. It seams that when I elderly person has been in the hospital more then average & nothing that is major the doctors don't want to be bothered. Has any one experienced this. My husband is tired of fighting with doctors.
Is the twitching in her sleep bothering her? Has she had a sleep study done?
MIL has COPD and is grossly overweight. It really is too much effort to get ready and go out so why other. Why does she have to "do" anything. Sitting and watching the world go by is often interesting enough. Things are not "good' for an elderly person if there is no pleasure in it. Some exercise might be appropriate if it contributes to her health but she won't be a self starter.
A large amount of food is not essential but liquid is helpful again in reasonable amounts. Nothing is fixable at this stage so don't run the tests if you are not going to do the treatment and it is not contributing to her quality of life. it is a very hard stage to accept but try and put yourself in her position and think about what you would want.
See All Answers