I travel for work so we had cameras installed in the house. The caregivers know about the cameras but at least five of them turned off the camera or put something in front of it or even turned it facing our kitchen window. The ones that turned it act like they didn’t realize it. The one that unplugged it blamed it on our dogs. We hire these people to keep my mom company keep her safe give her meds and feed and help with bathroom. They all end up failing one way or another. Some try to put her to bed early so they can go to their computer, some don’t give her medications. I’m going crazy, it’s not very difficult. My mom is 84 and 88lbs walks around a lot and likes to be with people. She's easy but wants company. She has a hard time getting her words out so I agree with her and say that’s good. I talk to her. Then you have some caregivers ignore her. It’s hard to find good help...
At least in your own home, you can ask the agency for a different care-giver or change agencies.
It's a terrible problem, for sure. When we needed in-home help, we had good experiences with people referred by church friends. We had some good, some questionable agency care-givers; but the director of the agency was usually helpful in addressing issues.
The most wonderful woman was the sister of a friend from church. She was my lifesaver. For some reason she just was able to talk my Dad into doing what needed to be done. He never fought with her. She was amazing.
I tried the agencies, but found that the crappy pay meant the only people working for them didn't actually care to do the job. I insisted that this woman be paid a decent salary or I would take her and my business somewhere else.
Good Luck Rilley. I was on the same journey with my own Mom but I was lucky as I was able to take indefinite leave of absence. I kept engaging in conversation with my Mother and singing old Irish Songs as well as reciting recitations hence Mom never lost Her speech and Moms memory was quiet good to the End.
I deeply admired you because First I have a mother thousand miles away.Im in NY she is in PR.Second becasue im a HHA since 1982 and third because it's a deep subject.
I know and has suffer your concerns thru my familie,friends...on my line of duty daily living witnessing how aides leave clients unattended for hours...
DEFFINETLY you need to speak with her doctor after you come up with a plan and goals for your mom ideal balance life.
Number one...You have the authority to get things done in an Ethical manner.
Close your eyes and visualize a perfect day for mom.Lets see...Mom awakes by 9 am if shower in the morning will be awesome...then breakfast...goes for a walk...come home relax and watch t.v. LUNCH...WHILE listening some soft music...then read newspaper...or help with doing laundry like fold or hang clothes.Help in the kitchen...
Now that could be an scenario...
I've been a HHA since 1982 i have done all types of clients ...but the one really brings me lot's of satisfaction is the Alzheimer's and dementia population...There is so much to do and offer to them ...the sky is the limit
In the case I'm now for a year the client is doing so well thanks to the intervention of her caretaker.They had many aides till one day she said ...WHAT DO I WANT FOR HER THAT WILL BENEFITS everybody?
I work Fri.sat.sun.mo.9am to 9 pm4 days 12 hours.
On Friday a musician come with a guitar.Monday i look up for songs then i get in touch with him talk about the songs...so he come prepare on Friday
When he comes i open my lap top look for the biography of the singer and i ask her to please read for us...and she does...then we play music and sing...Have some coffee and cake o crackers...all is about the approach and planning...then saturday we watch nice programming ...read ...and do the nails...Sunday is deep body appearance ...shower head to toe. lotion.,shampoo, theeth etc.Monday is to relax...watch tv...cut magazines... read...
Her caretaker put a STOP TO THE NONE SENSE...
SHE TOOK EVERYBODY OUT
HIRE New people with lots of expiriance FROM 3 DIFFERENT AGENCIES...NOW FROM 30% Client is 99.9% doing better...
Do not get discourage...its just about getting the goals to take action...it might not work 100% but any percent is acceptable...as long the team are doing all they can in their power...you all in my prayers...IT CAN BE DONE...OK