I am in process of being my grandmother's conservator and guardian. This has been going on for 4 months now. My grandmother is refusing medical treatment. Before I started this I was a diabetic. Since all of this my health has worsened. I am on insulin now and high blood pressure medicine. I have passed out a few times due to diabetes.
I am afraid at this point that me worrying about my grandmother is making my health terrible and worry that soon I will be in hospital and not care for my grandmother.
My grandmother refuses all treatment and just wants to die! This is why I wanted to be guardian in first place. My lawyer at time knew how bad situation was and that she needed emergency guardian and still it has been 4 months now. Her health is worse and now mine is! I do not know what is taking so long... I am afraid much longer we both will be in bad shape therefore I want to resign and save myself before something bad happens to me. How can I resign when it has not been approved yet?
If there is money in the estate, the court will appoint a stranger as guardian and he/she may suck up all the assets by overbilling, leaving mother on Medicaid.
informing that the situation has changed and you are no longer able to commit
to the responsibility. You can't save people from themselves. Be glad you
caught it in time to stop it..I also have diabetes, and it IS true that your head
and your body are connected. Diabetes will shorten your life, and treatment is
often trial and error. And don't let them set you up as an alternate or co-guardian.
We try so hard to make their life as it was, often by giving them ours...My mom
one day refused her medication, it went on for two weeks, doctor said if she has her mind she has a right not to be imprisoned here..and we should meet as a
family and decide what we would support. WRONG !! Six kids, three to let her
decide, three to give it in her arm or IV..then she stopped eating, and the reason
she gave was it was poison and we were trying to kill her. OMG.. took her to
the emergency room, was dehydrated, etc. They admitted her, medicated her
(she ate well for them by the way). Doc said paranoia is common among the elderly and really cannot be cured without sedating them. The woman who
criticized our makeup and clothes and hair and kids and husbands and all
other things all our life, has become a Diva.and we are expected to serve
her and respond to her daily, groom her, entertain her, pet her, because she
thinks we work for her, and doesn't know who we are. So disappointed and
embarrassed and helpless. Will this NEVER be over ?
And I can tell you from personal experience with my dad who passed away at 95 eight years after a stroke and with at least 3 years of being "kept alive" by a paid companion who was thinking about her income from him more than she was about his comfort and well-being, there are worse things than being allowed to die if that is what an elderly, sick person wants.
They should be able to listen & direct you as to how to proceed with your concern.
Hope this helps.