She says she is being mentally abused, and the poa won't give her any money. Is there a way my sister and I can get it revoked? How do we know she is not also stealing from my mother, who has alot of money. My sister will nort commuinicate with us excpet through a lawyer, and will not allow my mom to call us. When we call you mom, she is desperate to get out from under her control. How can we help our mom? Can we make sure she is not draining my moms assest for her own benefit? She has already taken her away to NC and put her in an assister living home. Just yesderday, she had a estate sale and made us pay for the precious treasures from my mothers home. Yet, she has taken what she wanted. She is not abiding by my mothers wishes, and my mother is desperate to come back to Atl and live closer to her two children and grandchildren. Please, tell me what I need to do.
Please do it now. If I'd known what was in my aunt's POA before she passed away, I'd have called the authorities and asked them to take a look into her care and her finances.
Get her out of there as soon as you can. Try to get a message to her that tells her that she can revoke the POA just by writing a letter and giving it to the appropriate authorities starting with the bank. Banks are very picky about POAs to begin with and if you raise a question that your sister is abusing her authority they will most definitely stop honoring the POA until the situation is resolved. Good Luck to you, and please, write a post to let us know how you make out.
Be well, Sue
Just because your Mother signed a POA which allowed another person to act on her behalf does not mean that she does not have the right to manage, spend, sell, buy anything she owns or wants to own or sell. (Unless the POA specifically takes that right away and this would be most unusual) Your Mother DOES NOT need permission from the POA holder to handle her own affairs unless she has been declared incompetent by a court..
I've been following the string of comments on this situation and some points concerning your Mom's mental condition MAY be valid. The only way to find out is to physically visit and evaluate for yourself how your Mom is doing. That being said the fact that you have been cut off from communication with your Mother by other family members raises a huge flag that something is amiss.
You can demand an accounting from the designated person holding the POA detailing how your Mother's funds are being managed. There are legal re courses you can take if you feel that some sort of fraudulent activity has taken place. Again I strongly urge you to contact the bank both by phone and followed up by certified mail where you mom's account is held and demand an accounting (essentially an audit) of the account's activity.
I'm so sorry that you must go through this, and that it is most likely going to cause a rift in your relationship with your family that may never heal, but the most important thing here is that your Mom's finances are protected so she can be taken care of in the best way affordable.
I feel for you and will keep you and your family in my prayers, Remember this, your health and relationship within your household are the most important thing to have.If you are not at peace with yourself you cannot help your Mom in her time of need. (I know, easier said than done).
Take care, and be Well, Sue
Situations like this can be difficult, but perservere and don't waste time arguing. Once you get adult protective services involved, you have to follow up with a lawyer. Don't let time elapse. If you cannot afford an attorney, discuss this with adult protective services to make sure she has proper representation. All things go hand-in-hand: adult protective services, an attorney and a competency hearing.
what legal re courses can you take if you know an agent(family member who has POA) is taking mothers money for themselves?
i know that family member will not agree to accounting of their activities.
Will the bank release an accounting of all transactions to a family member who does not have POA?
Will they just give over all transactions apon demand?
Concerned family members need accounting of POA activities to submit to attorney or court or APS as Mother is frightened of POA family member and will not revoke POA as she fears for her safety.